torn_curtain Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 Just want to share a bit of my happiness. I can't get over how sweet, take charge and nurturing this guy is in contrast to the other men I've dated. I've never been with a guy who has actually WANTED to help me rather than just doing so begrudgingly out of sense of duty, and that includes my ex of a year ago who seemed sweet until I actually needed him even the slightest. When I mentioned offhand that I've been trying to ween off this antidepressant forever that has nasty withdrawal effects, he spent several hours researching online and watching every video he could find, then sent me a detailed long email with advice and encouragement. On the phone last night he said: "I want to hold you through the entire thing as you kick and scream and vomit and curse the day I was born." Haha. Every other guy has been totally not understanding and turned off when I've mentioned that I suffer from depression occasionally because of a chemical imbalance. I ended up having to never talk about it. I just assumed all men were like this. I mean I've been with guys who were great when it came to practical help, but never actual emotional support. I am also shocked that it's possible for a guy to be both very assertive/not a pushover and sweet. I mean I knew guys like this existed in theory but I've never actually encountered one. Take note bitter guys who assume women like jerks -- this rare combination is what women respond to: strong/assertive, sweet to those they love and protective. I'm trying not to get too ahead of myself, but if he turns out to be half as good as I think he is now, he's a total keeper. I'm smitten.
thatone Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 the reason more guys don't behave that way is because selfish women walk all over them if they do. it may be my natural tendency to act like your bf but a woman will have to show me that she is deserving of that before she gets it.
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