Jonnyy Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 So i moved in to college yesterday and i saw my ex, who is going there also, holding hands with the guy she had a crush on while we were dating and basically they are dating. I thought i was totally fine and happy before then but once i saw them my heart broke all over again. It hurt so bad. And now i feel like i have no friends up at college. I feel lonely, and i want to talk to her because i want to have fun and i feel like we could have fun cuz she wanted to talk to me before. She had her cousin like beg me to talk to her since i have been NC with her for a week and a half. Idk what to do. I want to talk to her and be friends, but at the same time i feel like i shouldnt cuz im just gonna get hurt again. Advice please guys
Nohbody Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 Remain NC. Being friends with her is going to open you up to a world of hurt as she moves on and finds new guys and then decides t share some choice details with you. When it goes wrong, she'll come to you and you will think 'Yes! Now is my chance!' but she will just as quickly pull back and meet someone newer still. Stay no contact, in the name of all that is good and sane.
Author Jonnyy Posted August 29, 2011 Author Posted August 29, 2011 (edited) She deff has the GIGS and idk that just makes me feel like she will come running back to me sooner or later. For some reason i feel that talking to her and becoming friends again will win her back from that 24 year old guy. But at the sam time i feel that NC is the best thing right now. I defriended her on facebook and she sent me a message, after having her cousin practically beg me to talk to her, saying "since i already know your not going to accept my request just decline it right away that way i can give you all the space you need." And now i even see she has changed her profile picture to one of her and that guy. It hurt me when i saw it and idk what to think anymore. Please guys help me out. I am so confused right now and i still hurt badly. Im so sad and i need some words of wisdom and just someone to cheer me up. My ex really wanted to talk to me in the days before moving in to the dorms at college. I never replied to any but now i feel like i want to reply. I miss her so much, shes so beautiful, and since that guy goes to a diff college and wont be visiting her that often, i think, i fell like i can win her back by just being good friends with her. I mean she did want to talk to me, but idk what to do. What do you guys think of talking to her? Edited August 29, 2011 by Jonnyy
Nohbody Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 Unfriend her on facebook. Go a step further - block her. Do not contact her. If you go by the GIGS reasoning, she may come back in a year or two. you can figure it out, then. There is nothing you can do to change her mind, and being friends is only going to hurt you. My opinion, but I think it's a good one.
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