Freesia120 Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 Been on NC going three months and when I thought things are getting better, my friend called me today to say she bumped into my X yesterday with his new GF. He had the nerve to ask her if I was back in town.He has moved on pretty quick from what I can see,I didn't think it would bother me so much Ugh!! what is getting to me is I just found out he wasn't suffering from depression at all!! Why would this man lie about an illness,why would anybody stoop so low.I have been strong enough not contact him...Im so glad I didn't now that I have this new info. Here I was feeling very sorry for him,wondering if he has been able to overcome his many problems... I'm so mad at myself for being so naive!!
smudge21 Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 Sounds like he used that excuse to avoid dealing with explaining his actions during your break up. Sadly, people do act like idiots during these times and will do anything to avoid dealing with their exs face to face. Don't be mad at yourself, you simply believed someone you loved. No one will knock you for that. Like most dumpers, his emotions had gone before he broke up with you and so it just seems like he moved on much quicker. That said, dumpees always take longer to heal - dealing with the shock and upset of it all just adds to the pain. It's not fair, never is. You're doing well with NC and don't let this little interuption set you back. If anything he's proved that he's not worth your attention or concern.
ConfusedT Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 I know how hard it is to know that he has a new girlfriend & lied. Double whammy! Sucks! Yes, it is hard and I know you’re pissed because you felt bad even though he was lying. My ex has an entire other relationship behind my back (i.e. he was lying the entire time =(…) and then he left me for the other girl (his x) and lied about it for the first 2 weeks or so saying he wanted to be single, but he was really with her =( Sad. Noone deserves to be lied to.
Author Freesia120 Posted August 29, 2011 Author Posted August 29, 2011 My X just started going silent on me,shutting me out and wouldn't give any tangible reason why,all he said he was stressed with his work,he feels like a failure on my levels.It was one thing after the next I tried to be there for him despite his smood swings but when he started picking fights over petty stuff,was provoking me, would get angry very fast and would stay mad with me over a week, something told me he wanted to be left alone,or wanted out so I did him the honors and told him since he isn't happy we should go our separate ways.
ConfusedT Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 that is so good that you had the strength to leave when you saw things were heading south. in hindsight, im sure many of us wishes we had. it doesn't make the pain any less, but just know you did the right thing for yourself & for the relationship.. whatever it was.
Karala Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 Been on NC going three months and when I thought things are getting better, my friend called me today to say she bumped into my X yesterday with his new GF. With friends like that, who needs enemies? Please protect yourself by avoiding such "friends" or telling them straight that you need to NOT hear about your ex for the time being, until you feel stronger.
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