Birdland Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 Assuming a good first date, in which a woman's interest in me is clear and I kiss her on the cheek at that date's conclusion, do you think it's gentlemanly to go for the lips near the beginning of the second date? Over the past 4.5 years, the majority of which I was seeing one girl exclusively, this approach has worked for me five out of five times, worked in the sense that I continue to see the women. I kiss so early because I can ascertain interest level, at least superficially, early on in the date, rather than waste 3 or 4 hours and get a cheek or other rebuff. If you are or were a woman, would you be okay with a kiss so early on in the date?
AHardDaysNight Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 I don't know. I've never kissed a girl on the lips.
Casablanca Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 Just go with the flow, if she is interested you can tell. I've kissed on first dates, and others I havent kissed until 3rd or 4th date. Just go with the flow and it will work out fine, if you plan it out, it will come off as fake and off-putting.
UpDownAllAround Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 I have no clue. Never kissed a girl on the lips either.
sm1tten Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 Hm. I usually have been kissed on the lips on the first date (if it was a good date) and therefore I would expect to be kissed on the lips on the second date, which doesn't always happen. I think it would be a little off-putting if you went for the cheek first date and then the lips first thing second date. Odd disconnect somehow.
CarrieT Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 The last guy I met through a dating site kissed me -- deeply -- upon first meeting me after the ubiquitous emails and phone calls. Hooked me in right there.
alphamale Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 Assuming a good first date, in which a woman's interest in me is clear and I kiss her on the cheek at that date's conclusion, do you think it's gentlemanly to go for the lips near the beginning of the second date? assuming she has made it clear that she digs you on the first date there is nothing ungentlemanly about going straight for the lips
Feelin Frisky Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 ...If you are or were a woman.. . Hahahahahaha. Just in case, eh? funny.
zengirl Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 Generally speaking, there are no generalities. Cheek kisses weird me out. It's about reading signals, honestly. Which is hard to describe here. I will say that waiting till date 2 or 3 has often made me MORE interested in a guy than I would've been if he kissed me right away. Though waiting longer than that, and interest would decline. But every woman is different in that regard. As long as it's the end of a good date, and you go for a standard kiss, with a slow lean so she's prepared, I foresee no issues. I have rarely been in a relationship, these days, with a fella who kissed me on the first date, so the second date kiss (middle or end) has begun to seem standard for me. I think my current BF had me much more interested by waiting until then, personally. But I like a slow burn, and not everyone does.
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