jenjen83 Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 Why do men say things they don't mean when there is no reason? Here are just a few things my ex said to me ''I am more than he deserves'' ''he's a very lucky man'' etc etc....then he dumps me a couple of weeks later. I liked him,not the things he said but hearing them did make me fall a bit harder and I wish he hadn't said them when he didn't need to.
Green21 Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 If it's any consolation, not all men are like this and some women are. For some, it must be in their nature. My ex told me she was the luckiest girl in the world. Made a tonne of promises about how our relationship would last forever and so on. One morning, she told me she loved me. Later that day, she ended everything. Obviously she said a load of things she didn't mean to have thrown it all away so easily.
Tayla Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 In that moment in time they most likely were telling the truth. Life changes, facts change and the mere fact that the person changed their minds doesn't make them untruthful. Contradictions are abound thru life, its when we isolate them that we see them correctly. I absolutely adored a guy and meant everything I said to him, When he chose to move on, I meant all the crass things as well. Doesn't mean I didn't love him, but I sure as heck learned that closure is rarely pretty. I have since learned to separate the B*ll$hit from the Bull.
AHardDaysNight Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 Maybe these people don't have high enough self esteem, and believe that you are too good for them?
SincereOnlineGuy Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 Why do men say things they don't mean when there is no reason? Here are just a few things my ex said to me ''I am more than he deserves'' ''he's a very lucky man'' etc etc....then he dumps me a couple of weeks later. I liked him,not the things he said but hearing them did make me fall a bit harder and I wish he hadn't said them when he didn't need to. Well, you could always perceive a lack of self confidence in him, and allow that he may well have meant exactly what he said. A strong psychological force takes effect when somebody who is used to being mistreated (probably since early childhood) happens across a person/partner who IS the stand-up, respectable sort. The person used to being mistreated often becomes unable to bear the mere reality which has the decent partner just being decent (and not introducing any chaotic storylines into the relationship). Now of course this scenario seeeeeeems more fitting of a 'good' guy and a woman who has long been a victim, but I'm quite sure that it can work with reverse gender roles as well. So definitely look below the surface for the answers you may eventually be at peace with as you contemplate them from time to time during your future, despite never knowing 'the truth'...
Author jenjen83 Posted August 29, 2011 Author Posted August 29, 2011 In that moment in time they most likely were telling the truth. Life changes, facts change and the mere fact that the person changed their minds doesn't make them untruthful. I guess that's true. My trouble is that if I believe what he said then it gives me hope for us to get back together and if I believe it was lies then it makes me not want him. I think you are right and I should accept whether or not he meant them at the time his feelings have sinced changed.
ConfusedT Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 Its not just men. A lot of people talk to talk. Watch their actions, because words flow easy.
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