SamLanders97 Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 I was dating this guy, Andy and it was just the best relationship I've ever been in. We were both scared for the summer because it opened up more chances for one of us to cheat. I had gone to another state and fell in love with another guy (Logan) and ended up cheating on Andy. I was feeling guilty and told both guys about each other. Logan thought about it and said he was mad but he would stay with me. Andy though wanted to break up. I was crying for the next week. Well Logan ended up breaking up with me because he didn't feel the same way about me as he did before. I then found another guy (Zac) and we dated for about a week. It ended because I told him that I still had feelings for an ex. He told me that he understood and to just let him know when I was ready to get back together with him. Well about 2 days later I had finally convinced Andy to take me back by telling him I was very sorry and that I wouldn't do it again. Well one night I wasn't thinking and told Zac I was ready to date again. So then he asked me out and I told him sure. Then I went on a walk and came back and told him that I was sorry but I wasn't ready to be with him yet. He said that he understood again. Well the next day I was feeling guilty and told Andy and Zac about what I'd done. Zac said he hated me and never wanted to speak to me again. I had finally gotten Zac to talk to me. But then Andy said that we should break up again and said 'Sam I gave you a second chance and you broke it. I can't give you a 3rd chance I'm sorry.' I really love Andy and can't believe what I did to him. Andy, I believe is the one. How do I earn his trust and love back? Please help I reallllllllllllly love this guy </3
Bryanp Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 I really think that you are way too immature to be taken seriously. You constantly seem to fall in love with whmoever you are with. You have betrayed Andy over and over so of course he no longer takes you seriously as a long term relationship. If you truly love somebody then you don't cheat on them over the Summer and then fall in love with another person. I really do not think that you have a clue what being in love with another person really is.
rafallus Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 Is 97 in nickname referring to your birth date? If so, then stop worrying about guys, and worry about studying instead.
Author SamLanders97 Posted August 28, 2011 Author Posted August 28, 2011 Well i only loved Logan and that went away pretty quickly. But I know I love Andy I just know it
Memphis Raines Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 How do I earn his trust and love back? Please help I reallllllllllllly love this guy </3 oh please, you don't know what love is. My guess is you are very young and immature. you played with these guys. you should stay away from committed relationships until you grow up. As far as your question of how you can earn his trust back, you can't. guys don't take kindly to being played for fools. And we know that once you cheat, we know that you are the kind that can, and more likely will, do it again. My advice is to leave him alone and move on. And the next time you find someone, stay away from other guys.
Memphis Raines Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 Well i only loved Logan and that went away pretty quickly. But I know I love Andy I just know it thats because Logan basically told you to take a crap and fall back in it. andy was the back burner guy who you wanted only when Logan, a guy with brains and balls, told you to go away.
Professor X Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 Well i only loved Logan and that went away pretty quickly. But I know I love Andy I just know it You're jumping from one guy to another and you think you know what love is? lol, please, you're just a baby... Sorry, but you're to much of a kid to be given a serious answer, which you wouldn't understand anyway. Andy did good and you screwed it; First lesson you learned in life: Once trust is broken is rarely ever heals back. No Sam! No! Bad! Bad! Fooya! (hope it made sense to you).
Eddie Edirol Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 Hey Sam, your problem is you cant be alone. You are constantly looking for someone to give you something, whatever that could be, so fulfill something you need. Looks like youre experimenting with guys to replace Andy, but you found out the hard way that you cant replace him. In the meantime, these guys have feelings, and you cant go jumping from one guy to the next because you cant be alone, or deal with not being with Andy. You have to commit to one guy or leave him alone entirely. Or maybe you enjoy playing with guys, but thats a pretty pathetic thing to do. Anyway, you will never earn Andys love back, you ruined your chances after the 2nd time, and Andy is smart to avoid you. You can keep trying if you want, but as far as he knows, as soon as youre away from him, you jump ion the next guy that comes along. So if Andy stays smart, he will start dating a girl that lives near him.
seibert253 Posted August 30, 2011 Posted August 30, 2011 Please don't take this too seriously, and I don't say this to be mean, but you have alot of growing up to do before you should even consider being in a truely committed relationship.
jeremy711 Posted August 30, 2011 Posted August 30, 2011 What is wrong with you....he'd be stupid to trust you again. Sorry!
Lecturer Posted August 30, 2011 Posted August 30, 2011 In case people are wondering, yes, she is 14. Sam, my advice to you is to stop seeking affirmation from boys/men. The 'love' that you feel that is so overwhelming is really just your psyche giving you a sense of value based on being desired by partners. As long as you continue to find personal value in the affirmation of others, you will be extremely vulnerable to cheating. BTW, the names of these boys makes this sound like some lame tween/teen musical movie.
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