Alive_Again Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 Hello all. I am brand new to this forum. I posted a query on another forum, saying I was looking for a support group that could bring me back to earth occasionally at those times when I wake up in the middle of the night, thinking of the horrible things my ex-husband could do. Someone pointed me in the direction of this forum. I am hoping for feedback telling me what is realistic to worry about and what is not. Here are the facts: - My ex is an attorney and one of his areas is family law. - We have been officially divorced for several years. - I have temporary physical custody of our daughter, but I am working outside the country right now, and my ex is caring for her (though usually I am). - I worry about his influence on her. - I would like her to live with me, wherever that is. My ex occasionally throws around his legal knowledge, and what he says makes me think either that I will never live with her again or that he just wants to scare me, whatever his own plans. I am not even sure that he wants her to live with him. I can't read the signals. She's also old enough to say what she wants and a court might listen, but I can't read her signals either - and I can't expect her to tell me the truth because she doesn't want to hurt either of us. The dishonesty and what's not being said in this situation are really the worst thing - I am left guessing and, like I said, I can't tell what is realistic to assume and what isn't. I have an attorney and she assures me I can regain physical custody when I return. Before I left, pretty much all of the issues had been resolved anyway, so I don't think she's just saying that to keep my business (she isn't making much off of me anyway). So I guess my questions are: How much power can an attorney have in his own case? Is there anything he has to refrain from doing as far as a conflict of interest - or even what common sense would dictate? Can he really abuse his power (because he doesn't have much else going for him)? If so, how? Even if he weren't an attorney, could he keep our daughter? Does it even make that much difference? If I suspected some kind of abuse or unfitness to care for her, how would I go about determining that or gathering information on it (legally and ethically)? Any answers would be helpful. I can't respond if you send a PM because there's always the chance that you're somehow associated with him.
LifesontheUp Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 Hi AA, I would go about documenting everything that gives you concern and is brought to your attention. With regards to your questions, I would have thought your attorney should be able to let you know the answers. You could also include the concerns you have documented also and discuss what options you have on the information that you have. Good luck.
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