9Lives Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 (edited) Im reading this great book and I want to know if anyone else has read it. It helps put alot of things in perspective when it comes to dating. I personally would like to met someone who is moving in the same direction. This book has charts and break downs to let you see where you are and why things are going the way they are. It has taken alot of the guess work out of the picture for me and has made me stronger. It helps you dissect his behavior and reveals things that are going on UNSPOKEN. Its the unspoken that is driving the relationship alot of times. Caution: it is not designed to make you critical and harsh towards your date. It just gives you lots of clues as to where he/she is. Here is a examples: He/she is quick to acknowledge everyones flaws but not their ownHe/she needs constant excitement and gets bored easily-he will eventually get bored with youhe/she put your relationship on fast forward and isolates you from famiy and friendshe/she call you at the last minute, spends alot of time out with the boys, and lets you pursue him more than he pursue you. Its a great book! Im currently was seeing this guy and the chemistry is very high but I realize, he is not ready to be serious at this time. It has kept me from spending all my energy and time trying to be with this guy. It has also kept me from being hurt and disappointed. He tells me he misses me so much and I miss him as well but he is interested in being great friends with sex cause he dont want a girlfriend. I dont want to do that but he is very hot and I am very attracted to him. He and I are cool. We are not at each others throat. I can move on and not feel used or hurt. It works! I can tell he has more respect for me because of the way I handled things. It works! Edited August 28, 2011 by 9Lives
Author 9Lives Posted August 28, 2011 Author Posted August 28, 2011 Another great thing I have learned. Through the process of profiling, you more easily learn to realize and accept reality. With this knowledge, its possible to move forward by creating better relationships for yourself, rather than staying stuck in the same old stale fantasties.
Author 9Lives Posted August 28, 2011 Author Posted August 28, 2011 Here is some of the profiles Commitment ready verses not ready Ready: he persues you Not Ready: you persue him Ready:your priority number 1 not ready: your priority number 11, 25, 48 Ready:He initiates spending time with you Not ready: you initiate spending time with him Ready:cares about your well being not ready:cares about his own well being Ready:Attentive Not ready: inattentive Ready:interested in what interest you Not ready:interested in what interests him Ready:watches videos with you when you are sick Not ready:takes off when you are sick Ready: Plans ahead and is consistent Not ready:calls at the last minute and is sporadic Ready: focuses on catching you Not ready:focuses on the chase Ready:invest in you not Ready: see you as a cost Ready:Focuses on the future Not ready: focuses on the now Ready:advances the relationship Not Ready: stall the relationship Ready: says he is committed and acts committed not ready: says he is committed and acts indifferent Ready:lkes fact to fact contact Not ready: likes emails and text and message Ready:dont have much need for excuses not ready: always has an excuse Ready:p Perfers couple time not ready: perfers out with the boys time ready: gets to know your friends and family not ready: keeps his posse separate from you Ready: gets his ducks in a row Not ready: it totally loosey goosey
bluenightowl Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 Here is some of the profiles Commitment ready verses not ready Ready: he persues you Not Ready: you persue him Ready:your priority number 1 not ready: your priority number 11, 25, 48 Ready:He initiates spending time with you Not ready: you initiate spending time with him Ready:cares about your well being not ready:cares about his own well being Ready:Attentive Not ready: inattentive Ready:interested in what interest you Not ready:interested in what interests him Ready:watches videos with you when you are sick Not ready:takes off when you are sick Ready: Plans ahead and is consistent Not ready:calls at the last minute and is sporadic Ready: focuses on catching you Not ready:focuses on the chase Ready:invest in you not Ready: see you as a cost Ready:Focuses on the future Not ready: focuses on the now Ready:advances the relationship Not Ready: stall the relationship Ready: says he is committed and acts committed not ready: says he is committed and acts indifferent Ready:lkes fact to fact contact Not ready: likes emails and text and message Ready:dont have much need for excuses not ready: always has an excuse Ready:p Perfers couple time not ready: perfers out with the boys time ready: gets to know your friends and family not ready: keeps his posse separate from you Ready: gets his ducks in a row Not ready: it totally loosey goosey good reminders for sure!
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