IfiKnewThen Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 isnt it something how even though you know its all over, they're married now& whatever...and you reconciled it over and you are living and thriving..... then a storm hits...or a hurricane... and you remember them calling you in the past to see if you were ok.....or they would tell you what to do to keep safe. and now they dont care if youre dead or alive....and there is not even an email...saying hope all is ok. of course i dont expect it anymore and yet....it still kinda hurts. but i know i have God and he got me through the storm/irene ok and all my prayers were answered. so i am grateful. so i am glad i still mean something to a higher power and am still lucky too... but it is all to clear to me i mean nothing to someone else with absolutely no word. but hey God is stronger.
Jdw_Icequeen Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 I think that was the hardest thing to get over... The good memories you had together and how you seemed like the most imporant thing to them and all of a sudden in a blink of an eye they are strangers to you. Almost as if the feelings were never there. Its been 9 months for me now and I am ok with him being a stranger. I don't even think about the "memories" we shared. Maybe its because we were only together for 13 months. But I have completley erased the thoughts of everything out of my head. I think it was due to the horrible breakup and all the horrible things I learned about him. Eventually it wont hurt anymore not even a little bit that part I can promise you.. I hope your ok, stay safe through your storm. *hugs*
Author IfiKnewThen Posted August 29, 2011 Author Posted August 29, 2011 thank you for your warm, caring and uplifting reply. 9 months is still long but i know there is longer. i think its easier to get over them if they were jerks throughout the relationship. but when they were good , its so painful. when i was the one who messed up. it was 10 years too, so not even hearing..i hope you get thru that hurricane ok...really hurts. but i know he's married and ovioulsy doesnt care. but like i said....i have God and nice people like you who offer kind words and get you through these things and times. thank you and i am glad you dont think about your ex too much. i can tell he lost a good person ...so his loss : )
Jdw_Icequeen Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 ;)Thank you that is very nice.. I just wanted to say he wasn't a jerk at all through the relationship we had an amazing one. But it was after the break up I realized everything.. It was a huge smack to my face lol.. Everyone messes up.. So don't beat yourself up, 10 yrs is wow.. A very long time. I hope you have forgiven yourself we all make mistakes none of us are perfect and it just makes us who we are learning from our mistakes.. It dosen't make you a bad person.. I have always liked to beleive things happen for a reason, and god is a good thing to have by your side. That person you were with was just a passer by a life lesson. You sound like your doing well though if you only think of them when your going through "storms".. I don't think anyone ever compleltley forgets who we once cared about or loved. But its nice that the pain goes away.
Author IfiKnewThen Posted September 7, 2011 Author Posted September 7, 2011 thank you for your reply jdw. its people like you who are compassionate and give support that helps keep us going. i used to think of him daily. minute by minute. and then i put myself in the throws of getting busy...looking at what i have and taking him off the pedestal. mostly i try to appreciate now what i have. again thanks for your input and response
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