XXmandylovesuXX Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 There's this guy im really into. We've dated for almost 3 months. Doesn't seem long but i enjoyed everyday of it. We broke up nearly 4 months ago. He found someone else. But i can't move on, and he meant so much to me. But for some reason i can't seem to get that hes moved on. I always try to tell him how i feel, he never listens. There's just something that makes him better than the others. I mean there are so many good looking guys out there. But I only see him . Just that if i don't have him, i don;t want anyone else. He's got the best personality's the most gorgous eyes. I love seeing him and talking to him. But my friends even say that I don't really love him, its just lust. Which i don't know what the 2 really mean.(I am young) But he all i ever think about. I really want him back . And with that, i can't. So I decided to not go see him after School. nor talk to him. But it feels so hard. I'm not sure if i can do it. What am i feeling? Is it Love or Lust?
Graceful Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 Hi Mandy, In all honesty, what difference does it make? You didn't say you love this guy, and you probably don't. You were (and still are) attracted to him, but you also like his personality and lots of his other traits. So just relax. You're young. You might not have had a crush like this ever before, so you've got attraction based on his personality and his sexuality. Sounds normal to me. That's what happens to me, and I've had lots of crushes. He found someone else. But i can't move on, and he meant so much to me. But for some reason i can't seem to get that hes moved on. I always try to tell him how i feel, he never listens. In the meantime, the most important thing for you to do is leave this guy alone and walk away graciously. No more telling him how you feel (he already knows), no groveling or anything of the kind. It's sad he found someone else when you fell so hard, but take a step back and know he's not the guy for you. He's a serial dater, not looking for a girlfriend. Try not to take it personally, and use the experience to your advantage. He liked you for a time, you know you have self-worth, and you don't have to settle for just any guy. Take your time, don't rush out to find a new BF just yet. You need to heal from this guy breaking your heart. Wait until you feel better, and I hope that's soon.
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