Buttercup84 Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 When I moved out I didn't take any of his presents with me , as far as I cared , he could throw them out. But when he dropped off more of my stuff he packed some of the presents too. Just some clothes , the necklace he gave me for our first anniversary , and there were some cards and little stuff. I still use the wallet and handbag he got me for christmas , mostly because I chose it while he was there and they are nice.To be honest they do not remind me much of him. I boxed some of the presents and will keep some of the stuff. Maybe one day when I am Ok I can look at them.He was my first love afterall. He also gave me a kitten when we started going out , she is grown up now and there is no way I will give her away.Not her fault that he is a jerk and I love her very much. Will give the clothes away , since it is getting warmer here and I don't want to be reminded . He gave me those clothes weeks before he dumped me. Idiot. The guitar he gave me is at his and some other things.He can keep them , he said he will keep the presents I gave him : Iphone loading pad , cards,soft toys , camping set , romantic presents etc. Doubt he will keep them when he gets a new girlfriend...
shayla Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 I had not really decided what to do with them until I saw his wedding picture 2 months after he dumped me and saw the blushing bride wearing the same heart necklace that I had. I threw all that sh*t away.
GgirlBgirl Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 I think I'm going to keep the presents. They were all practical, a kindle, iPod touch, apple earphones with mic. The thing that gets me is I got him a wooden trebuchet for his birthday that we were supposed to put together. He loved it but it stings the thought of him putting it together with another girl. At that thought i am trying to keep in my head that when I was overseas with my parents and my uncle died unexpectedly, he brought up the night I got back that he was upset with me for not keeping in contact more. Mind you, I was numb and distraught because I had to leave during my uncles wake and couldn't stay for the funeral and that my family was a complete mess at the time and me asking to buy a phone card in the midst of hospital bills and funeral preparations and my moms pain seemed trivial ESP since I was able to at least tell him what had happened. Also, my family couldn't tell my grandparents bc it was Xmas and didn't want them to ma ke themselves sick. And a good man who deserved me would have not been that selfish in the midst of all the loss, emotional pain, and sadness and would have understood that I needed him to be there for me and not be critical of me.
LelouchIsZero Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 Threw out everything she bought for me, even shirts that I had bought whilst she was with me haha.
SillyS Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 I'm not sure really. I have a winter coat and some clothes he got me, I don't want them anymore. He told me he felt like I used him, so I don't really want care to have any of these things in my possession anymore. I think in a few months, I will box them up and sent them to him? Good idea or unnecessary conflict to sent a guy female clothes/coat?
Wesker Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 I had all the stuff she gave me bagged, boxed, and ready to drop off at Goodwill. But then I had second thoughts, and just threw them in the back of my closet, hidden. What really pains me is that I had given her this really nice blanket for Christmas, in which she would tell me her favorite spot is wrapped up with me in it. Now the fact she's doing that with some other knob, with the blanket I gave her no less, is just sickening.
Green21 Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 The gifts I have left from her are mostly sealed away in a folder. They'll eventually all go in a box with the larger items, along with a item of mine I'd sent her whilst she was away to remind her of home (since returned to me). The only reason I've yet to do this is that I can't be bothered; doing so would only remind me of her and what she threw away. Once it's done though, I will seal the box and put it in a place I can't see or access easily.
Geya Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 For me the question is WHAT gifts lol, he never gave me anything, ever.... Even on my birthday, I guess that should've been a red flag?
radiodarcy Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 most of them i threw out - - save for the chair and television he gave me -- not because of the money (they were both hand me downs - -the chair he ripped off from the company that laid us off and the television was from some girl he knew who had gotten a new one and was looking to dump the old one) but because it would have been too much of a hassle to get rid of them and i use them anyway. at first i didn't think i'd be able to handle keeping the chair because it still heavily smelled of him - - in a good way - - he wears this cologne that has a nice spicy musky scent that i love. but since the cat's been using the chair as a scratching post the smell's pretty much gone away most of the time i forget it's from him. it wasn't a lot of stuff to get rid of really - - just some DVDs he burned for me and a pair of shoes. i should have given those to good will but i was too upset at the time and not thinking straight :/
Finch Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 At the end of one relationship I boxed up and handed back all the gifts he had given me. I was hurt and thought I needed to get rid of all reminders of him and of us. It didn't help me feel any better any faster. About a year later I started to really regret it. Once I was over the relationship I wished I had those gifts back, not because of who gave them to me, but because they were nice and were exactly the type of things I would have bought for myself. I wish I had kept it all. My advice is to not give the stuff back. Perhaps you don't want the reminders at this point, but you don't need to toss the good out with the bad. Box it up (maybe have separate boxes for personal things like cards and letters and general gifts) and put it in storage, somewhere were you won't be bumping into it. Maybe even ask a good friend or parent if you can store it at their house. You might be surprised how in a year or two you take out the box(es) and are pleased at their contents.
Graceful Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 (edited) I did a little of each, in some cases, slowly over time. He gave me some useful gifts (tv, mini-Cuisinart) and if you think I was going to bite off my nose to spite my face by getting rid of those items, think again. I earned those gifts, and they were not sentimental in the first place. Appliances are not sentimental. As far as jewlery goes, I kept a nice gold chain he gave me from our first holiday -- because it's nice -- and I don't wear much gold anyhow, I wear silver -- so why get rid of a perfectly good piece of jewelry that I rarely wear anyhow? I recently realized I had a tea pot he gave me -- out in the open, no less -- and thought to myself, yeesh, get that thing out of here. So I put it away, in case I ever have a yard sale. at first i didn't think i'd be able to handle keeping the chair because it still heavily smelled of him - - in a good way - - he wears this cologne that has a nice spicy musky scent that i love. but since the cat's been using the chair as a scratching post the smell's pretty much gone away most of the time i forget it's from him. Good for you!! That's the spirit! That's definitely something I'd do! Edited August 29, 2011 by Graceful
Arikel Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 Its not the jewellery/accessories fault the giver was a jerk.. I just kept mine a couple of years till the hurt wore off, then started wearing them again. Its a lovely bracelet, and in retrospect, we were both really young and too far apart. The most recent ex has only ever given me 1 thing .. but it IS quite a pretty item, so I'm just keeping it till I feel ready to wear it again. The only catch is that it is a ring .. but I guess it wasn't an engagement ring or anything, so its still only a piece of jewellery. It is silver though .. so it might tarnish to bits by the time this hurts gone .. :/
marylangley Posted August 30, 2011 Posted August 30, 2011 I need a gift for a 5-6 six year old, very fashionable girl. Was considering necklaces by juicy or betsy johnson, or maybe some classic pearls. What sounds best? Or something different?yeah gift her a lovely necklace..that sounds too good..but i feel pearls can be opted to a lil more older girl...she is so sweet and smal...and so really would love a gorgeous necklace.(betsy's would be fantastic).a lil bit of hangings in it..like pendent or so...i am sure she will love it !
mcfuzz Posted August 30, 2011 Posted August 30, 2011 I still have a watch that the ex gave me for Xmas. I dont wear it but I dont really want to throw it away. I may sell it at a second hand shop, or ebay. Most other things I have thrown away, no point being reminded about her unnecessarily.
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