Do people still agree it's better to have loved and lost....... I'm not so sure now.

[BrettLost]

You know the saying:-

 

"Better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all".

 

I get haunted by this saying beacause it makes u wonder if it was all worth the extreme hurt we all are going through.

U gave ur ALL to one person, they needed more it seems...

 

Anyone with children would never regret them, planned or not, but overall to love somone hard n deep, the hurt and betrayal is something im not sure il ever get over. Without knowing, the children have been betrayed also. Their right to a full family was taken away. (abusive cases aside).

 

Any future loving is also tarnished with the fear of it all happening again...

So, do you think the saying rings tru?

[andyg99]

pain is part of life... when we commit to someone we are handing over our hearts to them, some take that serious and some don't give a *****, I say love is worth the risk - it has brought me joy and also heartache.... if we don't want to risk it again after we've been burned then we are letting that person hurt us again and again...

 

now the flip side is that once we heal and are ready to love again we could decide that "hey, my life is great, I really don't care if I'm alone. If I meet someone some day that would be good but I don't care if I'm without a partner". That's different than being afraid to be hurt again.

[carhill]

No regrets. I feel great empathy for those people who are incapable of or afraid to love.

[Lucid1]

Brettlost,

 

I think it's human nature and we're stuck (cursed) with it. A few short months ago I would have told you I'd never ever get involved with a woman again; after two divorces and the damage to my kids each time the pain is just too much to risk again. But here I am, thinking I don't want to spend my old age alone and catching mself thinking about dating. Which means I'm probably doomed to love and lose yet again. Sigh....

[Saul Goodman]

I think so.

 

My mantra has always been to enjoy and cherish the good times while you can, and accept and deal with the bad times when they happen. It is no doubt easier said than done: One negative moment seems to override 100 positive moments.

 

I've been questioning my own situation: Will I be ready to even begin dating within the next year? Probably not. Do I hope to fall in love again sometime in the future? Yes, I do.

 

I've been extremely jaded about relationships and life in general, way back in my youth. I hope to never be in that place again.

[Alive_Again]

I dunno ... I think it depends on your attitude going in, and the person you loved (and lost). I've loved someone who I would never have NOT wanted to love. He enriched my life. I would hope I'd be someone like that - not unforgettable, but someone who had a good impact on someone else's life, no matter what happened afterward. But I think it's also true that some people never give that much of themselves - not that they're mean or bad, but they just don't aspire to that, or it doesn't occur to them to.