Need proof that he cares.

[UnderTheDuvet]

Hi...

 

I'm 22 and been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year and a half. Around 10 months of the relationship was long distance as I was away at University.

I graduated and came back just over 2 months ago.. The first month was fine. Now he's being weird... We don't hang out as much anymore.

If we go out with my friends then he only comes for 30 minutes/ An hour and then leaves.. Sometimes he'd come for the end of the night and we end up leaving at the same time, at which point he asks me what I'm doing now.. I say 'Nothing, come over and we'll chill'. He most of the time replies with 'I'll come over in about an hour'. I don't see why since he has no plans anyway...

 

I text him 3 days ago asking him where he's taking me for dinner (In a more flirty way)... He called me saying that he was really tired and that he has to take his sister's car back to her so he's going to have dinner with her (He's had dinner with his family for the past 2 weeks). So I got a bit annoyed as it seemed like an excuse... Then I text him later that night telling him how I feel his feelings about me have changed and that I feel like he just wants to be a guy, go out with his friends, hit on girls... etc. He called me up and said that the text message was unnecessary and that we'll talk about it later.

He then called me saying he has an errand to do for his mother and if I'd like to join him quickly.. I agreed thinking we'd talk about the text... He didn't bring it up and neither did I.

He then dropped me off. And that was that.

Later that day I text him saying I'm going out at night but I need to talk to him after. He called me saying that it isn't practical to talk about it at 3am and that he'll see me the next day at around 3pm/4pm (That was the day before yesterday). I then proceeded to asking him what he was doing now (8.30pm), and he said nothing - So I suggested he come round and we talk now... He said there's a football match at 9.45pm so he can't.

That really upset me as he knew I needed to talk and he chose a football match over me.

So... I decided to start ignoring his phone calls and see how hard he tries.

He hasn't.

He text me the next day (When he was supposed to come over to talk) at 4.30pm saying that he's currently too tired to come over going to dinner at his sisters house so he'll see me after that. I did not reply.

I haven't heard from him since... He didn't call after dinner time, he didn't text, and it's now almost 1pm.. And still nothing.

 

I need advice.

This is my first serious relationship and it hurts. I wish I didn't love him.

[UnderTheDuvet]

I'm getting views but no replies.

If anyone has any advice on what I should do.. PLEASE.

I'm so lost.

[Buttercup84]

Hi...

 

I'm 22 and been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year and a half. Around 10 months of the relationship was long distance as I was away at University.

I graduated and came back just over 2 months ago.. The first month was fine. Now he's being weird... We don't hang out as much anymore.

If we go out with my friends then he only comes for 30 minutes/ An hour and then leaves.. Sometimes he'd come for the end of the night and we end up leaving at the same time, at which point he asks me what I'm doing now.. I say 'Nothing, come over and we'll chill'. He most of the time replies with 'I'll come over in about an hour'. I don't see why since he has no plans anyway...

 

I text him 3 days ago asking him where he's taking me for dinner (In a more flirty way)... He called me saying that he was really tired and that he has to take his sister's car back to her so he's going to have dinner with her (He's had dinner with his family for the past 2 weeks). So I got a bit annoyed as it seemed like an excuse... Then I text him later that night telling him how I feel his feelings about me have changed and that I feel like he just wants to be a guy, go out with his friends, hit on girls... etc. He called me up and said that the text message was unnecessary and that we'll talk about it later.

He then called me saying he has an errand to do for his mother and if I'd like to join him quickly.. I agreed thinking we'd talk about the text... He didn't bring it up and neither did I.

He then dropped me off. And that was that.

Later that day I text him saying I'm going out at night but I need to talk to him after. He called me saying that it isn't practical to talk about it at 3am and that he'll see me the next day at around 3pm/4pm (That was the day before yesterday). I then proceeded to asking him what he was doing now (8.30pm), and he said nothing - So I suggested he come round and we talk now... He said there's a football match at 9.45pm so he can't.

That really upset me as he knew I needed to talk and he chose a football match over me.

So... I decided to start ignoring his phone calls and see how hard he tries.

He hasn't.

He text me the next day (When he was supposed to come over to talk) at 4.30pm saying that he's currently too tired to come over going to dinner at his sisters house so he'll see me after that. I did not reply.

I haven't heard from him since... He didn't call after dinner time, he didn't text, and it's now almost 1pm.. And still nothing.

 

I need advice.

This is my first serious relationship and it hurts. I wish I didn't love him.

 

 

I am sorry hun but it sounds like he is distancing himself from you. I had that happen to me and it hurts like hell.

 

You need to really get him to talk to you and tell him that you do not want to be strung along.You deserve more attention and someone who will take you out for dinner.

 

If he does not make an effort to see you despite your pleas , I would break it off. I know it is really hard but you deserve better than that. And I am currently trying to get over my first love so I know how much it hurts.

 

But the more you distance yourself the more you see what was wrong in the relationship.

 

It is wrong for you to have to wonder all the time instead of enjoying being in love x