Gentlegirl Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 Does anybody remember and XMM ever posting here? Just thinking I don't remember it. Gentlegirl.
woinlove Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 There was an xMM who started a thread in OW/OM (maybe about a year ago and I don't recall his name, perhaps someone else can find the link). It was extremely popular. He had ended the A in order to reconnect with his W (who knew nothing and he wasn't going to tell her) and his children, but still had strong feelings for the OW. I recall that he said he posted to let other OW know what their own xMM might be feeling at the start of NC and he also kind of hoped his own OW might be reading.
FL510 Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 Yep...That's Flabbergaster. Wish he was still around. I'm still here...mainly just a major lurker now. An I am barely a "x" mm, but doing my best.
woinlove Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 This is the thread I was thinking of, by BHMM: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t243828/
Circular Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 Some of us keep a low profile and give thoughts/suggestions as needed. I was involved with a MW. There's a lot of repair work I'm doing but I come here on occasion because I still get that tug and miss xMW, but NC is best for everyone.
Owl Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 Happyatlast is one that still hangs around. There's another that I can look up. Bottom line is...there are a few, but not many. There are also a few xMW around as well.
Owl Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 Happyatlast is a xMM' date=' but only because he had enough b**ls to stand up for his feelings a actually follow thru on his promises. He married his OW. Now THAT is rare breed for sure by LS standards.[/quote'] That's one of those things that can be viewed either way. He stood up to his promises to OW...but broke those to his wife. Either way, someone was going to be hurt and have promises broken. Either his wife or his OW was going to end up in that position once the A started...period. Whether or not one or the other takes more b*lls I can't call... I will grant...it's darned rare to see the (x)MM marry the OW. Whether that's a good thing or a bad thing all depends on your perspective on the situation.
woinlove Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 That's one of those things that can be viewed either way. He stood up to his promises to OW...but broke those to his wife. Either way, someone was going to be hurt and have promises broken. Either his wife or his OW was going to end up in that position once the A started...period. Whether or not one or the other takes more b*lls I can't call... I will grant...it's darned rare to see the (x)MM marry the OW. Whether that's a good thing or a bad thing all depends on your perspective on the situation. If I recall correctly, his W broke them first by having an A and, while happy stayed in the M, it was for the children with the plan to leave later. I thought that was a pretty unusual example, staying married all those years, but not really reconciled - or am I mixing happy up with someone else?
Summer Breeze Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 I often wonder about Devil Inside. He seemed to be in such pain and turmoil. He was trying so hard to do the right things but it never felt like he was doing the right thing for him. Yes I do realize that's one of the pitfalls of being an adult but his story and such I don't think I could have, or would have, stayed where I was. I always wondered how good it truly was for any of them.
thomasb Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 I guess I fit into that catagory. Although it has been over a decade ago that I shaped up!
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