XXmandylovesuXX Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 So my ex boyfriend just broke up with his gf that he left me for, and now is after another girl... I'm trying to get him to get back with me.. Is that wrong? I want to let him know how i feel. But it makes me so mad when hes always flirts with other girls. even when were not together. I love him still so idk what to really do. I get mad when hes always making status about his gf and stuff. i get really upset when he updates pics with her, or is tagged in them, I sometimes go through his page to check stuff. and sometimes his current gfs page and so. Hes a big flirt. But i cant move on..i feel jealous all the time about this stuff. Am I ?
Layzie89 Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 You sound really young, and have lots of learning to do. If you get mad when he's putting up statuses and pictures about his girlfriend, WHY do you STILL have him as a friend and WHY do you still put yourself through that? I'll never understand people that come on here all sad and pissed off about facebook when they themselves are to blame for keeping their ex's on facebook. NOTHING GOOD COMES OUT OF FACEBOOK STALKING. You feel jealous still because you haven't let go. You haven't accepted that he's moved on. You're still in the same spot emotionally while he's off enjoying life...all because YOU keep YOURSELF from healing by harboring hope that maybe one day he'll come around, maybe he'll break up with his gf (like he did) and that's when I'll win him back. Get this out of your mind. Why would you even want him back 1) After he left you for another girl and 2) so you can be his rebound girl? Come on now, take a step back and think/act objectively.
Professor X Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 So my ex boyfriend just broke up with his gf that he left me for, and now is after another girl... I'm trying to get him to get back with me.. Is that wrong? I want to let him know how i feel. But it makes me so mad when hes always flirts with other girls. even when were not together. I love him still so idk what to really do. I get mad when hes always making status about his gf and stuff. i get really upset when he updates pics with her, or is tagged in them, I sometimes go through his page to check stuff. and sometimes his current gfs page and so. Hes a big flirt. But i cant move on..i feel jealous all the time about this stuff. Am I ? You sound awfully young so I won't even try to explain to you what's happening and all and will just tell you that you NEED to forget about him if you wanna start feeling happy again - cause this "upset / mad" about everything is just not healthy for you, and you alone; You can be sure he's not suffering from it. So it's time you take care of Mandy (assuming it your name via your username) cause no-one else will. 1. You goal: Forget about him; Move on. 2a. How: Delete your FB. Can't do it? Delete him from your FB, delete the girls he's dating from your FB. Can't do it? No excuses, just do it! 2b. Delete his phone number and your old SMS from him / to him. 2c. Delete his pictures or whatever else that might remind you of him. 3. Go NC (No Contact) - that means don't call him, don't look him up on FB or google or Myspace or whatever else you got. Don't text him, don't email him and of course don't respond to him if he ever does any of those to you (if he calls you or texts you or whatever). 4. Realize that there are A LOT of other guys out there that are WAY better than him who will treat you as you should be treated. 5. Heal up (i.e. get to a time and place where you won't be thinking about your ex' anymore and sure as hell won't be obsessive about him) and search for said guys. **To your question: Yes, you are jealous and it's super bad for you.
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