blonde88066 Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 Just looking for support I think after my recent breakup. I dated this guy from the time i was 15 to know 23 (almost 8 whole years). I have a really great relationship with his family, i think of them as my own now and almost all of our friends are mutual since we basically grew up together. I have done everything I could to help him and make him happy. Over the years almost every 6 months or one year he goes through this period where he doesn't know if he wants to be with me. Its really hard every time and has included me moving in and out of apartments, this recent breakup will be the third time. I Think sinces hes my first love and when things are going good we get along so great its almost impossible to let go of the feeling that he must be the one. WHen I am around him he acts like nothing has really changed but we are broken up. HE says that he couldn't give me a ring because he doesnt know if there is someone else out there that will be more exciting or make him happier. He said that he knows no one will ever love him or do as much for him as i do. His family has all reached out to me and told me how sorry they are and how much they love me which just makes it harder. Its been such a long time i dont know what to do its so hard to let go of that hope that maybe someday things will still work out. I guess im just looking for outside opinions. Everyone around me is involved in the situation and are just telling me to get over him because he doesnt treat me right and hes a jerk, but they also dont see that special bond that we have. :/
Nohbody Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 During the 8 year period you were together, did he ever propose to you? A relationship that spans nearly a decade is a very serious kind of thing for two people, a huge part of both of your lives... so a special bond is probably unavoidable. I will suggest the usual advice, unfortunately. Begin a no contact policy with him and try to focus on yourself, your wants and needs and how you can develop and grow as a person. Try to learn to stand on your own without another person (after such a long relationship, it may be difficult... but it may not be, I don't know you). I hope you are ok, and I wish you the best.
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