Lionblue92 Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 My boyfriend and I have been in long distance for about two weeks. I left for college on the 14th of august. Tomorrow is leaving for Columbia in chicago and I am at a school in Ohio. So even though I have been at this college for two weeks and we have been able to keep things great, now hes going. Im just nervous, I have never been in a ldr before and neither has he. but he really wants us to stay together and work, so do I. I dont particularly like to video chat but he does. so i do it with him like once a week. and we have been talking on the phone every day. Of course i have been able to talk to him every day because hes been home, and ive made time. but i know he will be in his welcome week of college and getting used to everything so there wont be as much talking in the next week im assuming. ANyway... I just want some advice on LDR's. Pros, cons, how we can make things work, how often we should talk, signs to look out for?
lesoiseaux Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 I'm new to the whole LDR thing myself, but I would say the key is COMMUNICATION. Don't play games, don't make assumptions, just communicate your needs and do your best to understand his. That being said, compromise is another thing. I myself am struggling with this...I've been so caught up in my own needs that I've forgotten that my boyfriend has his own needs too. Be flexible. Another thing is to make sure to keep yourself occupied. Find a hobby, focus on school, make friends, join clubs, etc. Just do SOMETHING you enjoy. And schedule a visit as soon as possible, so you can keep yourself going if things start to seem bleak. Something that I've found to be both a pro and a con is having a lot of independent time that I would otherwise been spending with my boyfriend. It's a good thing because it forces me to make my own friends and really cultivate my own interests, but at the same time it sometimes stinks because sometimes I just want him to be here with me.
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