djoey Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 so my ex is a man that has been strugglin with his sexuality. we broke up last year, but since then we have kept in contact. he works with a bunch of women and he has slept with one and come bk to me tryna make it work and I said no. i feel he is confused. fast foward to 8 months he has began datin his female coworker who used to listen to him tell her all of our problems, and a week ago they decided to enter into a relationship. he is a gay man now in a relationship with a woman!! when we were in relationship she has even come to our house and i befriended her as well cuz he is gay. I feel betrayed. he told me about his intentions with her. he says that he feels god is sending him on another path. to make matters worse, we just slept together 5 days before they made their relationship official. he told her he is in love with me still, and according to him, he says shes fine with it because it takes time to get over someone. he also told her that he and i will remain friends and she says shes not comfortable with it cuz its too soon. we have been broken up a year, we have just been hooking up on a regular basis and spending tons of time together. im not really mad at her, he is wrong. but she saw he was vulnerable and jumped right on top of it. im angry, confused. please help.
Nohbody Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 It sounds like this guy has NO idea what he wants, or who he is. I believe you should implement a 'no contact' plan and remove yourself from his life and leave him to figure things out for himself. There's nothing you can do for him at this point, and hopefully you can take this time to focus on you. If he figures out what he wants, he may come back... or he may decide he wants to try to be straight. Your feelings are valid, and I hope you understand that the problem lies with him, and not with you. Get away, move on. Find someone who deserves to be with you. My best advice, and only my opinion.
Buttercup84 Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 so my ex is a man that has been strugglin with his sexuality. we broke up last year, but since then we have kept in contact. he works with a bunch of women and he has slept with one and come bk to me tryna make it work and I said no. i feel he is confused. fast foward to 8 months he has began datin his female coworker who used to listen to him tell her all of our problems, and a week ago they decided to enter into a relationship. he is a gay man now in a relationship with a woman!! when we were in relationship she has even come to our house and i befriended her as well cuz he is gay. I feel betrayed. he told me about his intentions with her. he says that he feels god is sending him on another path. to make matters worse, we just slept together 5 days before they made their relationship official. he told her he is in love with me still, and according to him, he says shes fine with it because it takes time to get over someone. he also told her that he and i will remain friends and she says shes not comfortable with it cuz its too soon. we have been broken up a year, we have just been hooking up on a regular basis and spending tons of time together. im not really mad at her, he is wrong. but she saw he was vulnerable and jumped right on top of it. im angry, confused. please help. I am sorry. He is obviously still gay but thinks that being with a woman will make him more acceptable to people or something. Society still thinks that being gay is wrong so a lot of people sadly suffer from that.He is not going to be happy because he is lying to himself , and that woman won't be happy either. It is very hard but you need a man who is happy with who he is. It is sad that your ex is feeling like that.
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