antinko Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 Dieting and food is made way harder than it has to be. At the end of the day, you'll burn fat and retain muscle if you use those muscles intensely and your body 'knows' it needs them. Do cardio for shorter and more intense bursts: HIIT is awesome. Eat what makes you no longer hungry, not 'full'. Being full is entirely different. Try to cut out any junk food but don't feel guilty if you 'cheat'. You don't have to count calories to get into good shape. You only need such strict measures if you're going for insanely low body fat percentage. That's my experience anyway and it worked for a 'fat' friend of mine. Oh and I don't have a super fast metabolism btw. I'm blessed with appealing proportions and bone structure, but if I eat rubbish, I'll look rubbish. If I drink lots of beer, I'll pack on a gut very quickly...so I avoid it. I think alcohol is one of the biggest issues for men and weight loss.
Beachgirl8 Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 If the OP is clinically depressed and/or suicidal then of course he should go get help for that, from a licensed professional. As a former weight loss counselor/nutritionist I was simply offering some advice on that aspect. The majority of my clients were women, and over 5 years I literally counseled a couple thousand women on how to lose weight. The average client was in her 30's or 40's, 5'4ish and between 200-300 lbs. Many of them had great, caring personalities,intelligence, good jobs, and were single. Their MAIN complaint when it came to men was that they felt overlooked and could not get a date from men their own size. That's the part about the OP's post that got me all fired up. He is overweight yet isn't attracted to women who are similar to him that WOULD date him. I empathize with women in that predicament. I don't empathize with men who are overweight themselves but see women their own size as unworthy of dating. It makes no sense to me. I posted another thread about a guy I met on an online dating site who was 30 years my senior and twice my size that felt he should be able to date me. Why??? Why not find a woman your own size and age and be happy with her and have fun and enjoy life? Instead of being mad that you can't have something that is most likely never gonna happen. I don't get it.
OnyxSnowfall Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 If the OP is clinically depressed and/or suicidal then of course he should go get help for that, from a licensed professional. As a former weight loss counselor/nutritionist I was simply offering some advice on that aspect. The majority of my clients were women, and over 5 years I literally counseled a couple thousand women on how to lose weight. The average client was in her 30's or 40's, 5'4ish and between 200-300 lbs. Many of them had great, caring personalities,intelligence, good jobs, and were single. Their MAIN complaint when it came to men was that they felt overlooked and could not get a date from men their own size. That's the part about the OP's post that got me all fired up. He is overweight yet isn't attracted to women who are similar to him that WOULD date him. I empathize with women in that predicament. I don't empathize with men who are overweight themselves but see women their own size as unworthy of dating. It makes no sense to me. I posted another thread about a guy I met on an online dating site who was 30 years my senior and twice my size that felt he should be able to date me. Why??? Why not find a woman your own size and age and be happy with her and have fun and enjoy life? Instead of being mad that you can't have something that is most likely never gonna happen. I don't get it. Like I mentioned already, it may have something to do with their OWN dislike of themselves. If they were comfortable in themselves, had healthy self-esteem and confidence but were over-weight, I am not so certain they would be repulsed/turned off by women who were similar (in just that superficial fashion). I really think it's about self-perception... IF you liked yourself, and you are technically "over-weight", why would you dislike someone else who is (Unless you're delusional and believe you aren't / have troubles with sizing others and yourself up etc). There is stigma where people think all over-weight people are lazy. I don't believe that... I've lived with an over-weight woman who busted her ass and ate healthy etc etc. Her job was very physically demanding too... People just may associate traits to form too easily (without verifying).
UpDownAllAround Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 This thread is full of lies. I lost 100 lbs. and got myself down to 190 on a 5'11" frame back in '04 or so. Did I get a girlfriend? Nooooooooope! I thought that by losing 100 lbs. girls would flock to you or it would be much easier. At least that's what I've seen. Boy was I wrong.
rafallus Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 @OnyxSnowfall I have thought of plenty of things as to be absolute deal-breakers or something I just couldn't imagine myself dealing with. Guess what? Life proved, that I was wrong. Saying otherwise is pretty impossible to prove either way, you would have to go through every single short guy, whereas if life will catch you by surprise and throws you a curveball of a guy, you're helpless. It did so with me (well, not a guy in my case, pendulum doesn't swing that way. And it wasn't about height either), it did with many others, will it happen to you? Maybe, maybe not - nobody knows, until it actually happens. Am I saying to change your thinking? Nah, if life throws you a curveball, it will change on its own. Until then, it is what it is.
Author AHardDaysNight Posted August 28, 2011 Author Posted August 28, 2011 I suppose I would date a chubby girl, if she was pretty and we had common interests. Obese? No way! But then again, I'm not obese, so I shouldn't have to date a girl much fatter than I am!
Author AHardDaysNight Posted August 28, 2011 Author Posted August 28, 2011 Beachgirl, you were asking me to date women that are, by all definition, obese. I am NOT obese. I am slightly overweight. There is a difference.
Beachgirl8 Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 Beachgirl, you were asking me to date women that are, by all definition, obese. I am NOT obese. I am slightly overweight. There is a difference. If I said that then I take it back, thats not what i meant. I like how you just said that you would consider dating a girl who was slightly overweight though. That will certainly expand your dating pool and increase your chances of success
thatone Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 This thread is full of lies. I lost 100 lbs. and got myself down to 190 on a 5'11" frame back in '04 or so. Did I get a girlfriend? Nooooooooope! I thought that by losing 100 lbs. girls would flock to you or it would be much easier. At least that's what I've seen. Boy was I wrong. i would like to point out that this is not my dupe account! but i figured there would be one of these. my point is, attitude/intelligence/confidence will get you attention from women far more than looks, all else being equal.
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