JohnEl Posted August 27, 2011 Posted August 27, 2011 im really missing my ex today. the weekends are hard bc we would usually be together all day. im back to blamming myself for the break up. but after three years, she walked away too easily. she didnt put up enough of a fight to make it work. but shes already moved on and i dont understand how. i doubt im even on her mind at all anymore. shes with someone else and doesnt care about me. i keep thinking shes going to call me or someting eventually. i hope she does but i know she wont. its so weird not having her around and i dont like it. i dont want to have to start over with someone else. its scary. i think im still in shock about the break up. ive gone two weeks with NC, so i guess ill go another two weeks...then another two after that...but i need to stop waiting for her to contact me and tell me shes sorry and loves me or something like that bc that wishful thinking is only going to hurt me.
ScienceGal Posted August 27, 2011 Posted August 27, 2011 John, Just keep making goals for yourself. 2 weeks, and then 2 more, and then 2 more. It is not going to be easy, but that is the price of having such a huge capacity to love someone (this is a GOOD thing). Most of us on here have the same trait, and we are posting on here because we all CARE A LOT!!! You can't control if she calls or not, and in time you will stop waiting for it. And be honest with yourself about how you are feeling. Do not suppress anything or try to lie to yourself. You will get there! You were ok before her and you will be ok again. Be patient with yourself
coltsfan1 Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 John, my ex and me have been broken up for close to a year and its all been NC since the break up. Just work on you and know that what you feel is normal. You would miss a friend that passed. Same principal.
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