bluenightowl Posted August 27, 2011 Posted August 27, 2011 For those who ever left a relationship or who was dating someone who you thought was not ready (or you weren't), did you find them move from being semi-attracted to you to being very attracted to you, not to mention respect you even more.
OnyxSnowfall Posted August 27, 2011 Posted August 27, 2011 Usually. I've only been in a couple of relationships with people where it had the opposite effect... With the majority of them, once I began losing interest... theirs was generated to a, relatively, excessive amount. Probably each involving different reasons as to why... still seemed attract them significantly more though.
rafallus Posted August 27, 2011 Posted August 27, 2011 Well, yes, but I attribute it more to an ego trip than genuine care.
Author bluenightowl Posted August 27, 2011 Author Posted August 27, 2011 Well, yes, but I attribute it more to an ego trip than genuine care. yes, that's happened to me. I think the person and I were not meant to be, didn't treat me well, and then I decided to end it. Suddenly I was the most amazing person to them, but I didn't buy it. Fortunately my feelings were long gone and it was easy to ignore their renewed interest. I think almost every time I've ended or stopped calling someone who had fading interest in me, they later came back asking how I was. A lesson for those who think doing more makes you more attractive.
Beachgirl8 Posted August 27, 2011 Posted August 27, 2011 I find this to be a red flag of emotional immaturity- if "pulling away" increases their interest, it's doomed. Not necessarily in every case- sometimes people just need a simple wake up call- but if it happens more than once and becomes a pattern I'd suggest a power-dump and move on. Next.
NursingGirl Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 I find this to be a red flag of emotional immaturity- if "pulling away" increases their interest, it's doomed. Not necessarily in every case- sometimes people just need a simple wake up call- but if it happens more than once and becomes a pattern I'd suggest a power-dump and move on. Next. *******Agreed.
Author bluenightowl Posted August 28, 2011 Author Posted August 28, 2011 I find this to be a red flag of emotional immaturity- if "pulling away" increases their interest, it's doomed. Not necessarily in every case- sometimes people just need a simple wake up call- but if it happens more than once and becomes a pattern I'd suggest a power-dump and move on. Next. I agree completely.
9Lives Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 I find this to be a red flag of emotional immaturity- if "pulling away" increases their interest, it's doomed. Not necessarily in every case- sometimes people just need a simple wake up call- but if it happens more than once and becomes a pattern I'd suggest a power-dump and move on. Next. Thats a pretty good observation. I will keep that thought. On to the post Yes when I pull back from this guy cause we didnt want the same thing, he started to want me more. Partly because he was missing me and secondly because he didnt want to stop seeing me. Yes, it makes them respect you more because you seem to be the kind of person who knows what they want and what is best for yourself. Its attractive. Once you become clear of what you are looking for, walking away becomes a job you have to do. Its not always easy especially if you like that person but thats how life goes.
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