rafallus Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 Im still not understanding this. if sweetheart was okay with this guy taking her into his arms for comfort during the movie they were watching, then I think it'll be okay to let a small kiss progress. from my experience in dating whenever I embraced a woman I always got a kiss. never once did I get a pull-back or rejection. it just destroys the mood. a warm embrace followed by a kiss goes hand-in-hand. Look, for a fact, physical progression isn't the same with every woman you'll ever meet. Some will be more comfortable with kissing faster, some won't like hugging, some will not touch you back for long, but are fine with being on receiving end, you have to adapt to a person and circumstances.
Easyguy14 Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 Look, for a fact, physical progression isn't the same with every woman you'll ever meet. Some will be more comfortable with kissing faster, some won't like hugging, some will not touch you back for long, but are fine with being on receiving end, you have to adapt to a person and circumstances. I understand what you're saying but we're not talking about any woman in particular right now. we're referring to sweetheart who has cancelled that date with a guy she liked among other silly things. I guess being 30 Im not getting what's going on with the younger generation of people. it seems to me that many young women get a kick out of letting guys squirm.
carhill Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 Another potential is that they want what these dynamics bring them emotionally but have yet to learn how to procure it in a healthy, mutually respectful, way. One could ascribe similar criteria to a man and getting what he wants sexually. In this case, the OP's perception of the man's 'embarrassment' when his kiss was refused indicates to me that he's not a sexual aggressor. He didn't persist; he didn't laugh it off; evidently she saw an emotional reaction, one of embarrassment. He did ask her out for a date on Tuesday. This indicates continued interest. He didn't go dark and disappear. Also, since a mutual friend 'set them up', this confers some social validation. It's not like each are totally and completely strangers, though they may not be acquainted. I liken this to when one of my friend's wives set me up with her sister, whom I had never met. Even though we hadn't met, we 'knew' each other through social connections. There was an element of safety and familiarity. I would expect to be more 'comfortable' with her than with a total stranger, and was. Hope the OP figures it out.
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