Whats Her Deal, She Breaks Up With Me ? But When I Take Action She Flips

[mindgame13]

me and my girlfriend broke up, 3 weeks ago and now we havent been in contact for 5 days, she broke up with me and wanted nothing to do with me. so around this time last week i deleted her off facebook and she hit the roof about it posted" bloody pathetic sometimes you make my blood boil" but what i dont get is i deleted her at 1pm and whatever she was doing that night she tried to go on my profile at 2.15pm in the morning , then she text me asking " hey, im gonna take it you wont want help looking after amy when your mum goes away then ?" my mum is going away to aus for 3 weeks in a month, i should of stuck my ground on deleted her it affected her, but i want her back and ye so i said this" sorry aint text back been at work, would be nice to see you and could do with a hand but up to you x then she said how am i suppose to help when your deleting me from you life socially? i said i was really upset last night and i just didnt no what to do sorry, she put " right ok then " i said " i no it was really silly, i didnt meant anything by it". the last time we spoke was around 5 days ago and i just said asked how she was and she asked me and that was it. i have read up so many different things on what to do next. whether no contact or what? i want her back more than anything but i no begging aint gonna help anything anyone put some light on how she feeling? i think she may think she still got me wrapped round her little finger

[smudge21]

My ex made a big deal out of being deleted off Facebook too... I find the whole thing very strange, how did people cope before it I wonder.

 

Anyway, it's clear feelings are still there between you both, but as you say, you don't want to go begging or make her think she has you round her little finger. I think my ex often thinks the same, so by staying no contact it makes her realise that's not the case. You stay NC and ignore the breadcrumbs, those little messages that are just to get attention. If it persists, then simply remind her of why you're NC and leave it at that.

 

As much as no contact is for healing, it is often also the only way to get an ex back - make them miss you, but don't use it for that. Sometimes we just have to accept, no matter how painful it is, that somethings aren't meant to be. Stay strong, stay NC and see what happens whilst you heal. No one knows what the future holds.