chelle21689 Posted August 27, 2011 Posted August 27, 2011 I'm 22 and I've been with one guy since I was 16. We broke up 7 months ago but I've been dating someone new for a few months now and he's my 2nd boyfriend ever and 2nd person I've been physical with. We've french kissed a few times and the first kiss was really bad. The 2nd and 3rd time his technique was okay but some how I left with a huge smile on my face and feeling like walking on cloud 9. I went over to his place tonight and we started making out and I was thinking "Finally!" Sometimes his kisses are okay and sometimes they suck. When he kissed me his tongue doesn't move well at all along with mine. It kind of feels stiff and doesn't move much. I like to move mine in a slow circular motion around a guy's tongue maybe I'm just used to how my ex kisses.... Then he went to kiss my neck and I didn't feel his tongue very much. I didn't know what he was doing... When I went in to kiss his neck I started to use my tongue and I went all fast and kinda circular with it...I then realized afterward that maybe he didn't like that and I was embarassed on the inside because I know my ex liked it so I thought maybe he would but they're different people. Now I am embarassed and he probably thinks I sucked. What do I do? My boyfriend's tongue is so stiff and doesn't move around much...and he moves his tongue pretty fast and not slow. I like him and I'm attracted but I'm disappointed by tonight's makeout session
Take-a-hint Posted August 27, 2011 Posted August 27, 2011 Maybe the chemistry is off. It won't be long till you find out the truth...However, it's not uncommon that people just don't know how to kiss each other..give it some time and maybe practice. You could always teach him how to kiss you. Good luck.
Take-a-hint Posted August 27, 2011 Posted August 27, 2011 Sorry, I meant it's common that people have difficulty getting comfortable kissing. You gotta warm up to each other. It could be a case of being nervous..Again good luck.
Author chelle21689 Posted August 27, 2011 Author Posted August 27, 2011 I don't think it's nerves. I'm sad that the kissing wasn't that good...
FitChick Posted August 27, 2011 Posted August 27, 2011 Show him what you like and ask him what he likes. Simple enough.
Cypress25 Posted August 27, 2011 Posted August 27, 2011 I hate to say this, but I think you use your tongue too much. Most people don't enjoy being licked. When you kiss a person's neck, you're not supposed to use your tongue. He was probably thinking "eww, why is she licking my neck?!" That's what I would be thinking if a guy kissed me that way. As far as mouth kisses are concerned, maybe you should try it without the tongue for now. Open mouth kissing without tongue is way more sensual, in my opinion.
OnyxSnowfall Posted August 27, 2011 Posted August 27, 2011 Discuss it with him. Really, sit him down and ask him what he likes first --- open with what feels good to him. Show him you're interested in what he likes, and then hopefully he'll ask you what you like in return. If he doesn't ask you, tell him what he does that you do like. OR, mention it to him while it's happening --- maybe moan when he does something you enjoy... there are subtle ways to encourage things too. The fun part about being in an exclusive relationship (for me, anyway) is in learning one another's bodies. Learning how to please and teaching someone how to please you. It's a fun and interesting process. And for the record... I love when my neck is licked (and kissed too). I think the tongue, exploring around... every pore even... is hot Everyone's different though, it's good to exchange what you both like. Find out what you're each comfortable with... people can't read each others minds.
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