ConfusedT Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 so i really need to vent!!!! So, his mom called me and i am still trying to recover from that call... some things she said: she asked me why i hadnt came to her and told her what was happening-i felt that it wasnt my place she missed me hates his new girlfriend, tired of them constantly fighting *yes, he moved back in with his mother* =X i was the only person he ever changed for, for the better the only one who actually did anything positive for him & wanted to see him progress the only person she could ever see for her son wishes she could help me and help her son doesnt understand why he treated me like this doesnt know whats wrong with him and will always love me like her own daughter! UGH! i know what she said truly has no relevance, except between her and i, but it broke me down and pushed me back further!! i know she was just doing it because she cares and wants what is best and we have been close for so long, but it really killed me. she wont do it again, bc i told her i dont want to really discuss it anymore. i was so upbeat and it has thrown me off my course. it made me miss him more again and actually want to text/call him, but I didn't!!!! ugh, i need some emotional stability! =)
NursingGirl Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 Ugh, yeah, ex's Mom was holding me back, too. I still miss her but I had to delete her from fb and stop talking to her, too. She would say the same stuff...she couldn't believe ex (her son) was "playing with lives" the way he was. That's how she worded it and she was about right! We had our cry together and I told her I would have to delete her from fb and maybe later when things settled down, I could add her back. Unfortunately, having a good relationship with the ex's Mom doesn't really get us anywhere, does it? I don't know what she did to deserve him because she is so sweet but I'm glad he's hers and not mine now.
Nohbody Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 That sucks. It may be small comfort to know that you are probably the best thing to ever happen to this guy. Less comfort to know that he obviously failed to appreciate you. This is clearly his loss (mothers know this kind of thing - there's no arguing with them!) Unfortunately, NC is going to have to apply to his extended family. and here *hug* stay strong, and keep up the good work.
ellen83 Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 Its still v early stages for me we only ended on Monday as ull c from my other post today my bf lives an hr from me so we dont have a lotta mutual friends and i have toyed so much with idea of calling his mum but so afraid to make things worse i just wanna kno his state of mind
Lost on Jerseyshore Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 WOW!! I am happy she reached out to you, it kills me that I havent heard from my ex's mom! My ex also moved back in with his mother. I could see how much it hurt though. Just dont let this set you back, tuck it away in a little place in your heart that you have her respect and love....
EgoJoe Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 Mother's know best...even if it's not the best for "right now" just feel content that she's gunning for you. My Mom initially did not like my Ex because I had not been in a Relationship before her and was focused on my life, career etc. Eventually she warmed up to her and when things went downhill took her side and harps at me from time to time to "make myself more attractive and win her back" after "getting my **** together" Even though when my ex contacted to talk (hasn't happened yet) she also told me to, "tell her I want to be with you but I'm not ready and neither are you." The last bit being soooo true.
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