ventdomain Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 I don't want to get into the whole story but I dated my ex girlfriend for over 2 years. We broke up Oct. 2010 about two months after I had moved down to my current location. After about 6 months of manipulative back and forth, false hope, and all the associated pain, I told her I loved her and have been in NC ever since. I will be attending Graduate School in the Spring and am now moving about 700 miles away. I was the dumpee and she hurt me worse than I've ever been hurt. We met in college and were each other's first loves. I know I am not obligated in any way to write her. She did a lot of terrible things to me to hurt me after the break up that have since scarred me. However, I'm not in the position to say I would never forgive her. We had a lot of things going on in our lives that were really pulling us in separate directions and although she was entirely selfish in her decision to hurt me, I can't argue that it wasn't for the best. Anyway, I'm sure a lot of people will tell me to just let it go. I'm not sure whether she's currently dating anyone but it wouldn't surprise me. I made an ass out of myself for months after the breakup and as much as I don't want to give up the "power" of staying in NC, I'm a little compelled to do so. Lastly, the opportunity to reconcile in hopes to get back together is almost entirely futile and pointless. I will be moving and I don't believe either of us are interested in a long distance relationship (if it even came down to that). I do still love her though and as I'm sure she has moved on better than I have, I have no doubt that she still loves me too. So what do I expect to receive back as a response? I'll let you guys help out with that and maybe give me some suggestions as to what you think is an appropriate step for me. Thanks for all the help guys, wish I would have found this site right after the break up. Would have made a world of difference. Vent
Author ventdomain Posted August 26, 2011 Author Posted August 26, 2011 Edit: I will admit that the only reason I am writing this email is because I do have still have feelings for her and care about her. We told each other that if it's meant to be, it's meant to be. I like the idea of keeping that possibility alive and think the Email would serve that purpose. She had her birthday a couple months back and I did NOT contact her. The NC has been as strict as it comes. Thanks again, Vent
Nohbody Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 If it's meant to be, it's meant to be. Moving isn't going to change that. Stay NC. If she wants you, she'll find you... and making her work for it will make it all the better. Just my opinion.
FinOuch Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 I agree with Nohbody. Let sleeping dogs lie. There's really no reason to tell her what is going on in your life, especially since you were the dumpee.
J0N Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 It's crazy how similar our stories are. I too moved and I never told my ex, she also moved to the opposite sides of the USA. I will probably never see or hear from her again. Take my advice... Let sleeping dogs lie. Contacting her will only hurt. Trust me.
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