Cheating Stories was Told in Angry Moment??

[Rafaela]

Hey Mates,

 

i was with my BF in theatre yesterday watching Konan and suddenly i asked my BF to google the hero's name to see his background because i thought he is from my country, he asked me to wait but i insisted then he googled it in his phone bcuz i dont hv Data on mines then after i checked i kept playing in his phone and i was about to go to text msgs and he snatched the phone from me i asked why? he said shut the F*** up and watch the movie. i felt so disrespectful and i got up from my sit and i left the theatre cuz i thought he is hiding something in his phone thats why, plus he used F word to shut me up. then he followed me and asked me to get in the car and he handed me his cell, i checked i found nothing but there was a new girl num added recently i asked who's this girl? he said ow check i dont know, i was like what do u mean u dont know u just added her so i had to call her and she said that she doesnt know him either i was a bit confuse.

 

 

we got home i started arguing him that it doesnt make any sense to add someone u dont know and he accused me of creating stories to fight and also he was mad cuz i asked abt the hero's name and maybe felt jealous and started saying that i dont respect him and why it seems like i flirt with the guys with big muscules like the hero i laughed and he got more angry for not taking him serious i asked him to calm down and that i just wanted to know his background nothing else then he started saying that he goes to gym 4 times a week to get abs so that i can like him like movies stars i laughed more for knowing this it was just crazy how he thinks i dont like his body and if i ever showed any interest to a movie star it doesnt mean i am flirty person.

then out of anger he pulled my friend's name who got muscules too and asked me to go and date him instead i started getting upset too i was like yea maybe i will if you keep pushing me away like this cuz he always says go date this guy for so many months. then he told m sure u got something for this guy i swore that there is nothing he doesnt even have my number, he kept talking crap like ( go suck his D**ck or let him eat u out) i felt so Sh**y and i told him that he at least respects me and if i ever date him i am sure he will respect me more than u do now.

 

later on i wanted to finish the conversation by ignoring him as i warned him to start respecting me otherwise i will hv to finish this relationship then he said the biggest thing that ruined 1 year and half relationship:

 

he said if u think u r smart then listen carefully to this:

the night when i picked u up from ur GF' house i got a blow job from a polish girl before coming to u.

and the night where you were sick and you asked me to not come over so u wouldnt get me sick too i went to club with my friend and i Fu**cked a spanish girl in my car her name was tania.

and the night when i canceled with u and i told u m not feeling well and m gonna go home, i actually went to a girl's house after her family were away from the city and she took me upstairs and we also smoked weed.

and the girl num that u found in my phone is a new girl that i was planing to meet.

 

 

Omg i left my place i kept walking in the street crying like crazy anf felt vomit for hearing all this cheating stories.

 

i had a number for the last girl that he went to her house till mid night i called her and asked her abt that night she said that is true but nothing sexual happened its just there was nobody at home and he gave her company.

 

for the other 3 girls i dont know them to confirm what he said.

 

i cried my eyes out in the parking lot till he found me and then he apologized for wat he said and it was only out of anger to provoke me, i didnt believe him.

 

because it doesnt make any sense to lie abt 3 girls and the 4 one was true just because i had her num.

 

i asked him to leave my place right away and i havent talk to him, he still sending msgs and calling me trying to convince me that he never cheated on me and he said it out of jealousy and anger

 

Is it Possible?

we love each other but he is really possessive and jealous

i am thinking to break up with him, what do you really think?

Edited August 26, 2011 by Rafaela

[Memphis Raines]

i asked him to leave my place right away and i havent talk to him, he still sending msgs and calling me trying to convince me that he never cheated on me and he said it out of jealousy and anger

 

Is it Possible?

 

I don't think so. He told the truth, IMO, and is now lying to smooth it over.

 

in any case, it shows an downright cruel side to him if he was only saying it in the heat of an argument and would indicate cheating would not be out of character for him anyway.

 

Ditch this jerk.

[Lecturer]

1) This guy is insanely insecure about himself. This is and will continue to manifest itself in the form of disrespect to you, and jealousy.

 

2) I am 99% sure he did NOT cheat. He said this in a purely irrational way to try to 'defeat' you for his own concocted idea of your sexual desires of other men. His insecurity and jealousy is so severe that he concocts fictitious ideas and then starts to believe them. In his mind, you had already cheated on him with your muscular friend, the hero/actor in the movie you saw, and every other muscular guy that makes him feel insecure about himself. His claims of cheating was to make you feel jealous the way he does.

 

3) Your relationship seems like it has some problems, and you're not 100% innocent in this. You sound quite immature (I'm guessing you're fairly young? Under 20?), and, honestly, pretty annoying. Really, who demands that details be looked up about a movie/actors DURING the movie, when in the theater? And then continues to use the cell phone! I'm guessing someone from the impatient, instant gratification, mobile internet connected generation (kids under 20 today.. hence my guess at your age).

 

 

Anyway, even though he didn't cheat (again, I really don't think he did), staying with this guy is not necessarily the best idea. Until he can learn to deal with his insecurity, I am concerned for any relationship he might have.. violence doesn't seem out of the question for him in an extreme, irrational moment.

 

Edit: I should add, while I don't think he cheated, that doesn't mean he hasn't TRIED. In fact, there is a good chance that he did try, and will continue to.

Edited August 26, 2011 by Lecturer

[April72]

If he cheated or didn't cheat.... REALLY?!?!?! You have his phone and flips out and then tells you cheated .... then back tracks. UM!!! I say serious RED FLAG either way. That's all a little irriational. And if he's spending time with other women keeping them company and doesn't want you to know ... sex or no sex... r u cool with that??? Is he going to intentionally emotionally hurt you every time he feels angry??? wow that could get old fast.

[Rafaela]

i am actually Turning 22 yrs old in 4 days, i am not immature i just got fed up of listening to his stories and the way he changed the scenario when i ask him about those girls, he always forget what he said previously especialy when it comes to details.

 

he told me he is virgin like me but the way he act noway he could be one, we were planing to move together and getting married but thank god i havent lose my virginity to this jerk who keeps stubing me everytime with new story and the day after he denies it nd claim that he just wanted to burn me.

 

 

i wouldnt deny that he does so much to make me happy as i love him so deeply, we planned everything together and it ll be so hard for me to breakup but somtimes its good to step on your heart and move to save ages of pain especially with the type of person i am that i cant get over a big lie or forgiving him of sleeping with another woman or being a woman's house all alone.

 

Thank you ALL for your help

i thought i ll celebrate my birthday with him again, as i ll be very sad for being away from him in my birthday night remembering last year's birthday when he took me to lakeshore close to sea under a perfect shining moon, cutting my favourit chocolate cake and wishing each other to celebrate it again with our kids. that brings tears to my eye

[MusicMan1234]

I don't think you're telling us the whole story. Also, due to your lack of respect for the English language and total disregard for grammatical conventions, I am not going to help you. I am also 22 but I can still string together a coherent sentence.

[Professor X]

i am actually Turning 22 yrs old in 4 days, i am not immature i just got fed up of listening to his stories and the way he changed the scenario when i ask him about those girls, he always forget what he said previously especialy when it comes to details.

 

he told me he is virgin like me but the way he act noway he could be one, we were planing to move together and getting married but thank god i havent lose my virginity to this jerk who keeps stubing me everytime with new story and the day after he denies it nd claim that he just wanted to burn me.

 

 

i wouldnt deny that he does so much to make me happy as i love him so deeply, we planned everything together and it ll be so hard for me to breakup but somtimes its good to step on your heart and move to save ages of pain especially with the type of person i am that i cant get over a big lie or forgiving him of sleeping with another woman or being a woman's house all alone.

 

Thank you ALL for your help

i thought i ll celebrate my birthday with him again, as i ll be very sad for being away from him in my birthday night remembering last year's birthday when he took me to lakeshore close to sea under a perfect shining moon, cutting my favourit chocolate cake and wishing each other to celebrate it again with our kids. that brings tears to my eye

 

I sure hope you're going to find someone else, cause your BF sounds like a psycho.

Else, enjoy a "SHUT THE F*CK UP" marriage life. :rolleyes:

[Afishwithabike]

I've read and responded to your previous posts about this man. He's no catch. He lies. He deliberately says all sorts of hurtful things to get a rise out of you. He has all sorts of issues. If things are like this NOW, imagine them to be just like this after you get married. He's not going to magically change just because you get married. Why would you want to marry someone like him? Don't say "because I love him." It's going to take more than love to sustain a marriage. Marrying him is a bad idea.

 

You write like you're texting which makes your posts hard to read.

[Rafaela]

I don't think you're telling us the whole story. Also, due to your lack of respect for the English language and total disregard for grammatical conventions, I am not going to help you. I am also 22 but I can still string together a coherent sentence.

 

 

LoL very immature as i dont need your help

 

English is my 3rd language so no need to act cool and i just learned it 2 years ago. above all everyone understood my point and i am sure my text is very clear you just wanted to make it look such a strong ass accent C'mon if you cant help no need to write back from the first place.

[Chi townD]

Don't believe him, he cheated on you. Those times, places and people are too specific not to have happened. However, even though he's a complete douche rocket, don't take this the wrong way but, You need a lesson on the male ego, because you crush it pretty good.

 

But, by doing that....at least you found out some truths!

[eelloo]

no offence but i think youre a little insecure yourself if you thought he was hiding something from you cause he snatched his phone away, and also the fact you actually went thru his phone to find susicipus activity and called a girl asking who it was, says that you don't trust him either.

 

you guys both don't trust each other, and whether he cheated or not, its gonna be an issue. plus he is really friggin rude and seems obnoxious.

 

find someone who you trust and who trusts you, someone you can check out good looking guys-girls together but not feel jealous, someone you just trust, have all his passwords but would never feel the need to snoop thru his stuff because u trust him! no matter how much u love this guy, hes a jerk off and was verbally and emotionally abusive, and no one deserves that. u know that saying... there are plenty of fish in the sea. 6 billion people in the world, i guarantee you theres at least even 1 guy out there who can make u happier and make u love stronger

[Memphis Raines]

I don't think you're telling us the whole story. Also, due to your lack of respect for the English language and total disregard for grammatical conventions, I am not going to help you. I am also 22 but I can still string together a coherent sentence.

 

so enlighten us, what is it you think she is leaving out brainiac?

[Memphis Raines]

LoL very immature as i dont need your help

 

English is my 3rd language so no need to act cool and i just learned it 2 years ago.

 

don't worry about it. those bashing your english don't know pig latin, let alone any other language other than English.

 

If English is your 3rd language, then it already indicates you are an intelligent person.

[Osiris1234]

I'm not surprised he said it out of anger. You laughed at him while he was being serious and upset and added more gas to the fire by saying you would leave him for another guy.

 

But yeah, im 99.9% sure he didn't cheat on you.

Edited September 3, 2011 by Osiris1234