quietGuy13 Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 I'm mute a lot of the time because i don't have anything in my head. Nothing. Once i say hello and just small talk and what are yu been doing etc. i ran out of things to say and then i have nothing. ANd i stay mouth closed for long pauses. I hear women like communicators, well, i'm not so..... I'm pretty sure if i thought about what to say the previous day, and i write it then, then i could have a lot to work with but just coming up with topics on the spot is really difficult for me because of bad memory and speech problem that i have. If i bring my notecard with notes of topics to talk about, will woMen think it's stupid?
AmEricanWomann Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 quietguy, while some woman might like the image of the strong silent type, in order to really make a connection with a woman, you'll probably have to learn to communicate. We do appreciate being with a guy where we are both comfortable enough with each other to where we can be together and not have to fill every moment with talking. However, in order to get to that comfort level, most of us do need someone who can hold up their end of a conversation. He doesnt have to be a world class speaker or a toast master. Just someone who can converse fairly intelligently.
Author quietGuy13 Posted August 26, 2011 Author Posted August 26, 2011 Great. thanks for your message. So, yeah so then do you think bringing a notecard with topics is a good idea? Since i have trouble coming up with things on the fly.
AmEricanWomann Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 Great. thanks for your message. So, yeah so then do you think bringing a notecard with topics is a good idea? Since i have trouble coming up with things on the fly. No, I'm afraid its not. At least not when you're actually trying to talk to women. It may be a tool to help you practice talking to women when you're not actually in the room with them . In other words, when you're alone or out somewhere by yourself you can write down certain topics that come to mind. In a sense you'll be training your mind to find things to talk about, and perhaps eventually you will be able to come up with more subjects on your own. But its not really that difficult. Instead of bringing up this or that topic at all, ask her about herself, find out what she likes and if you find you like some of the same things you can talk about that. But whatever you do, do NOT whip out a note pad when you're talking to a woman. I cannot stress that enough. The woman will think that is completely strange and it will be the death knell for any chance you may have had with her.
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