If I back off he thinks I don’t care!.If I tell him how I feel he doesn’t believe me

[ah1]

Ive added my last post as a new thread as im turning it over and over in my mind and going crazy, and hope maybe somebody can ease the confusion....

 

the story that lead to this new thread is here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t293825/ titled my "ex cried over my letter"

 

 

My strong attitude and nc lasted.........a whole 12 hours :'( he had said maybe we could work things out in a month or so as he needs time to himself, and with his son, he said he doesn't want to meet anyone else but that's when I started the nc that lasted only 12 hrs

 

I'd prided myself throughout this breakup at not doing the whole begging and calling thing......but now he's throwing that back at me by saying when he left me all I did was agree with the breakup and accuse him of his wrongs then leave it......also hes says I hurt him too much by some things I'd said during the argument that led to the break up and I became nasty and he can't forget that.....(maybe im getting all i deserve then)

 

At first he said my letter was a good thing and it made him cry as he still has feelings for me,

 

..............but now he doesn't believe my whole "change of heart" from the way I was at the start of the breakup, and my strings of texts etc about how I care he says are "all talk".....!!

 

He has also said I only want him as an easy option because of my age and wanting to settle down.......I'm only 31!!!!!!!!!! This has come from me saying I wanted to settle and have family and help him look after his child, like we had always both said we wanted out of a relationship.

 

I’m really at a loss now at what to do it seems if I back off he thinks I don’t care! If I tell him how I feel he doesn’t believe me!

[Nohbody]

Initiate NC, don't listen to his lies. He's not the person you loved right now, he's become some kind of mythological monster and you must get away.