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She was my forever and I was her until someone better comes along...

 

My girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me a little over 6 weeks ago and the heartache I feel seems to have worsen over time, this morning beginning the worst. I miss her so much!

 

She left me because she felt she was no longer in love with me.... she also met someone new during her falling out of love period. Moments after breaking up with me, she was already with this new person and three weeks ago moved in with this new person.

 

Why do I grieve this person that hurt me so deeply? Why can't I let go?

Buttercup84 Established Member

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Hi Filmbuffy

 

I am so sorry ! I am at the same stage as you , 6 weeks and my boyfriend dumped me after two years.

 

I agree it seems to be getting worse , maybe because reality is setting in ? I know it seems sudden that she met someone else , but often the dumpers have checked out emotionaly out of the relationship , months maybe even years before they end it. Kinda cruel huh ? It is normal to feel like you do , despite them hurting us we still want them and grieve for them.

PegNosePete Established Member

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She left me because she felt she was no longer in love with me.... she also met someone new during her falling out of love period.

Co-incidence? I think not. She fell out of love with you because she met someone new. Sorry to say she was cheating on you dude.

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Ya I know... she fell out of love with me b/c of this other person. I also believe if this other person never entered the picture we'd still be together. Sucks ass!

PegNosePete Established Member

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I also believe if this other person never entered the picture we'd still be together.

Maybe, or maybe it would have been someone else instead. She would still have been on the lookout for opportunities. This other person did not hold a gun to her head, it simply was one opportunity that she took. If she didn't take it then she would have taken the next one to come along. Good that you found out and got rid of her now rather than in 5 years time when you are married with kids.

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Maybe, or maybe it would have been someone else instead. She would still have been on the lookout for opportunities. This other person did not hold a gun to her head, it simply was one opportunity that she took. If she didn't take it then she would have taken the next one to come along. Good that you found out and got rid of her now rather than in 5 years time when you are married with kids.

 

 

Hahah ironic. That exactly what my ex did. Minus the married and kids. It can happen anytime. Youd think after over 5 years she would be commited. But nope, someone else comes along and its like poof, those 5 years meant nothing and she drops me like a hot potato and gets with the new guy.

Rorschach64 Established Member

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Yup, not even being engaged to someone can stop this or being married. It is the ultimate suck in my opinion, but gotta pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and trek on forward to a new future you must build for yourself.

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I know how you feel! My ex and I were together for 8 yrs..he broke up with me and then we started seeing each other again but without saying we were together, he kept trying to talk me into getting pregnant, and I said not until we have a commitment he acted all hurt YEA RIGHT! Then proceeded to say I must have another man I want a baby with, um no I want commitment! Two wks after that he is with someone else that happens to be 11 yrs younger than me ugh and acts like I am dead! Been 4 wks that he has been with her now. :(

Sorry you are going through this.:(

KathyM Established Member

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She was my forever and I was her until someone better comes along...

 

My girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me a little over 6 weeks ago and the heartache I feel seems to have worsen over time, this morning beginning the worst. I miss her so much!

 

She left me because she felt she was no longer in love with me.... she also met someone new during her falling out of love period. Moments after breaking up with me, she was already with this new person and three weeks ago moved in with this new person.

 

Why do I grieve this person that hurt me so deeply? Why can't I let go?

It's normal to go through a grieving process when you've lost someone you love. Letting go emotionally will take some time. I think distracting yourself with other activities helps when you start obsessing over her. The less free time you have, the less time you will have to dwell on the loss.

california15 Established Member

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hey same boat. Moved in with his 2week gf.

 

But I agree 100% with pegnosepete on this. No one FORCED them. No said "You have to do this or you will die." They saw an opportunity and took it and if it wasn't their current SO, then it'd be someone else.

 

You deserve better.

 

Its hard to let go but you can do it. We all are and are here to support each other. You're not the only one struggling with letting go. But it can be done. Read the success stories of previous members who come back to tell us it can be done. Its not impossible.

 

Give up on her like she gave up on you

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