Reply rate with online dating occured with....

[irc333]

....MOST women that were completely NEW to online dating altogether, not bitter veterans.

 

I have even had a couple of women, after meeting me online, saying, "I'm thinking of taking my ad down, all these wierdos and pervs keep contacting me."

 

Meaning, "You're the only normal guy that contacted me, so I'm taking my ad down and I'll go ahead and go with you."

 

Just something I've noticed, I've never had any responses from women who've been on dating sites for a long time.

[grkBoy]

I think the "bitter women" who have been on dating sites for months or years are only keeping themselves single. They get emails, but they think they're "too good" for those guys, so they hold out hoping the super-hot guys will email them...or even join the site.

 

Suddenly it's a year later, and they're changing their profiles to these angry rages mixed with crybaby words about how "men suck" and she's "sick of liars" or going into some long tirade on how there must be physical attraction and chemistry to make it work, and for guys not to be angry if she chooses not to reply.

 

I say ignore them. They made their choice. It's all marketing, and if the super-hot guys won't contact them, then those women should accept that they are not the females the super-hot guys want. Period.

 

I imagine the new people simply want to find potential dates, and thus haven't been down the bitter road yet. Too many out there still see dating sites as "for losers" and thus have their finger on the "delete account" button every minute because they keep thinking they hit the bottom of the barrel in joining a site.

 

Again...how's "the real world" working out for them? If all they meet are horny douchebags and nice guys they're not into...then they should accept that this is their dating pool.

[Disillusioned]

Unfortunately the kind of man a lot of single women are looking for has pretty much become a pipe dream in this economy. Then when they can't get Mr. Right Now, they become bitter because online dating doesn't work like a vending machine.

[oaks]

Unfortunately the kind of man a lot of single women are looking for has pretty much become a pipe dream in this economy. Then when they can't get Mr. Right Now, they become bitter because online dating doesn't work like a vending machine.

 

You mean you can't smash your way in and take what you want without paying?

[TigerCub]

....MOST women that were completely NEW to online dating altogether, not bitter veterans.

 

I have even had a couple of women, after meeting me online, saying, "I'm thinking of taking my ad down, all these wierdos and pervs keep contacting me."

 

Meaning, "You're the only normal guy that contacted me, so I'm taking my ad down and I'll go ahead and go with you."

 

Just something I've noticed, I've never had any responses from women who've been on dating sites for a long time.

 

Or meaning

"You're one of those pervs, so I'm taking my profile down, you'll never find me again...EVER....just so you know!!"

:laugh:

 

I'm kidding.

 

I think you're right, when I first did online the very first time, I was way more likely to respond to everyone, after a while I got to learn what to expect from certain profiles, how lame their first email was, certain pictures, etc..

 

I don't think its an issue of not being bitter, rather its more about being inexperienced.

 

Glad you're having some success on it though

[chphan]

Hey OP, just curious but are you the ones doing most of the contacting or have you gotten women to contact you first?

[Star Gazer]

....MOST women that were completely NEW to online dating altogether, not bitter veterans.

 

I have even had a couple of women, after meeting me online, saying, "I'm thinking of taking my ad down, all these wierdos and pervs keep contacting me."

 

Meaning, "You're the only normal guy that contacted me, so I'm taking my ad down and I'll go ahead and go with you."

 

Just something I've noticed, I've never had any responses from women who've been on dating sites for a long time.

 

Ohhhhh yeah, just another thing you've "noticed."

 

So you have the brand new daters responding to you, AND you apparently have the "bitter" seasoned daters ALSO going out with you?

 

How is there even anything to conclude from this?

[BrkHeart]

This is just for other people wondering, I signed up for eHarmony on August 4th, I am single 31 year old male, I spent a decent amount of time working on the profile, I have already met 6 women in person, where 4 talked about meeting again before the evening was over. I also have 5 that I am working through the communication stages atm, and 2 who went right to instant communication. There were a few of those eHarmony flirts too, like your profile brought a smile to my face. I would say 75% of the women initiated contact. All of these women are in the 27 - 34 year old range, and I live in an area of about 600k people. I have been extremely impressed, I never thought I would get these kind of results, and think it is actually starting to drive me a bit crazy with all the time it taking to respond to emails, text, phone calls, etc. Not a single women has been in a way, shape or form what I would call bitter.

[Star Gazer]

This is just for other people wondering, I signed up for eHarmony on August 4th, I am single 31 year old male, I spent a decent amount of time working on the profile, I have already met 6 women in person, where 4 talked about meeting again before the evening was over. I also have 5 that I am working through the communication stages atm, and 2 who went right to instant communication. There were a few of those eHarmony flirts too, like your profile brought a smile to my face. I would say 75% of the women initiated contact. All of these women are in the 27 - 34 year old range, and I live in an area of about 600k people. I have been extremely impressed, I never thought I would get these kind of results, and think it is actually starting to drive me a bit crazy with all the time it taking to respond to emails, text, phone calls, etc. Not a single women has been in a way, shape or form what I would call bitter.

 

eH is in a league of its own. When I've used eH, I initiated those first questions about 50% of the time. There's something a lot less meat-marketish about eH.

[USMCHokie]

eH is in a league of its own. When I've used eH, I initiated those first questions about 50% of the time. There's something a lot less meat-marketish about eH.

 

Is eH really better than the other free sites...? I've never tried them since they rejected me years ago...

[FitChick]

There are plenty of bitter men, too. I especially enjoy the ones who are 50+ looking for women in the age range of 18-35 yet they say they don't want to have any more kids. These are the same men who used to go to bars and hit on those same women and be rejected by them.

 

I avoid men whose profiles haven't changed nor have their photos in many years. However, it's very possible that many of those are simply old databases that are constantly bought and sold to other dating websites, which is another reason women might not reply to you. They don't even know their profiles are still up.

[grkBoy]

This is just for other people wondering, I signed up for eHarmony on August 4th, I am single 31 year old male, I spent a decent amount of time working on the profile, I have already met 6 women in person, where 4 talked about meeting again before the evening was over. I also have 5 that I am working through the communication stages atm, and 2 who went right to instant communication. There were a few of those eHarmony flirts too, like your profile brought a smile to my face. I would say 75% of the women initiated contact. All of these women are in the 27 - 34 year old range, and I live in an area of about 600k people. I have been extremely impressed, I never thought I would get these kind of results, and think it is actually starting to drive me a bit crazy with all the time it taking to respond to emails, text, phone calls, etc. Not a single women has been in a way, shape or form what I would call bitter.

 

I agree with others that Eharmony is a spot where people spend the time and money because they really want to find someone. IRC333 is usually talking about PlentyOfFish, where many just join on a whim.

 

This is a prime example of why I tell those who are serious to not only join a pay site, but invest the time and money on good photos and a solid profile. Those women you met are serious about meeting men. I think most of the women IRC333 encounters on POF aren't serious...or are holding out for an impossible standard because it's not costing them anything.

[Disillusioned]

You mean you can't smash your way in and take what you want without paying?

 

That may work in the UK, but over here in the States we have psychic police who pick up our ESP vibes and then drive by in white vans into which we disappear for thinking bad thoughts. Such as smash-and-grab.

[irc333]

I agree, a lot of the free sites, I'm starting to notice a trend of women trying to be prospective "look at me models" trying to gain popularity than actually seeking a mate.

 

Pictures as risque as something you'd see in Maxim Mag, smiling sexy, posed photos leaning back, arching their back or pushing out their tops in "corsette-like" blouses.

 

They're just embarassing themselves, there's this one such aw oman that actually added a whole FAQ to her profile addressing certain questions involving what kind of sexual activities people who had been emailing her wanting from her from....

 

"Can you do a threesome with us?" A: No I don't want to do a threesome, I'm a one woman man seeking serious relationship, I don't swing"

 

Another question was about if she was looking for FWB, and she quickly negated that.

 

I think she was trying to show off how much sexually explicit attention she was getting from her explicit pics. Acting like she didnt want the attention, when she indeed does.

 

 

I agree with others that Eharmony is a spot where people spend the time and money because they really want to find someone. IRC333 is usually talking about PlentyOfFish, where many just join on a whim.

 

This is a prime example of why I tell those who are serious to not only join a pay site, but invest the time and money on good photos and a solid profile. Those women you met are serious about meeting men. I think most of the women IRC333 encounters on POF aren't serious...or are holding out for an impossible standard because it's not costing them anything.

[Anela]

I agree, a lot of the free sites, I'm starting to notice a trend of women trying to be prospective "look at me models" trying to gain popularity than actually seeking a mate.

 

Pictures as risque as something you'd see in Maxim Mag, smiling sexy, posed photos leaning back, arching their back or pushing out their tops in "corsette-like" blouses.

 

They're just embarassing themselves, there's this one such aw oman that actually added a whole FAQ to her profile addressing certain questions involving what kind of sexual activities people who had been emailing her wanting from her from....

 

"Can you do a threesome with us?" A: No I don't want to do a threesome, I'm a one woman man seeking serious relationship, I don't swing"

 

Another question was about if she was looking for FWB, and she quickly negated that.

 

I think she was trying to show off how much sexually explicit attention she was getting from her explicit pics. Acting like she didnt want the attention, when she indeed does.

 

I specifically posted that I was not looking for hook-ups, and to please not email me for sex (when I added something about friends, and not being friends with any partnered man unless his partner would also be my friend, I was then approached for sex by a woman). I was hit on my by men of varying ages, who obviously had not read my profile, and were just hoping that I would take their "sexy lady" comment, and swoon over them in particular - I don't even think that I'm that sexy, and I had no sexy shots up of myself, but I was repeatedly approached. Only a few men took the time to actually talk to me, and *read* what I'd written.

 

There may be some women who get off on the attention, but most women are sincere in their profiles, and are just sick of it. Some have also made friends there, and stick around for the socializing.

[Anela]

I think the "bitter women" who have been on dating sites for months or years are only keeping themselves single. They get emails, but they think they're "too good" for those guys, so they hold out hoping the super-hot guys will email them...or even join the site.

 

Suddenly it's a year later, and they're changing their profiles to these angry rages mixed with crybaby words about how "men suck" and she's "sick of liars" or going into some long tirade on how there must be physical attraction and chemistry to make it work, and for guys not to be angry if she chooses not to reply.

 

I say ignore them. They made their choice. It's all marketing, and if the super-hot guys won't contact them, then those women should accept that they are not the females the super-hot guys want. Period.

 

I imagine the new people simply want to find potential dates, and thus haven't been down the bitter road yet. Too many out there still see dating sites as "for losers" and thus have their finger on the "delete account" button every minute because they keep thinking they hit the bottom of the barrel in joining a site.

 

Again...how's "the real world" working out for them? If all they meet are horny douchebags and nice guys they're not into...then they should accept that this is their dating pool.

 

There are men on those same sites, who make it clear that they're looking for the above, as well. It isn't something that only comes with the women on those sites. One says that online dating is sketchy, so upload a lot of pictures. Another says, "you know if you look good in a bikini"). And there are men on there in their fifties, expecting younger women to fall all over the place for them, whilst they're overlooking women their own age.

 

Who says that they're meeting "nice guys"? And who are those nice guys *potentially* overlooking themselves? I don't know why I bother asking, because as much as women are blamed for always defending other women (we don't), I see excuses being made for the men on those sites, when most of them barely make an effort, and seem to think that they should be automatically attracting the girls of all ages, on there, and shouldn't take the time to actually pay attention to what the woman has written. I went back to look for a "nice guy" specifically, but I'd lost his information. he contacted me when I wasn't feeling so hot (not that I am now, after this hellish month). He wasn't "hot" but he had character, and was a counselor for children. He took the time to read my profile, wrote more than two words, and wasn't trolling for babes or hook-ups.

 

I really wish that I'd stuck around five years ago, when I initially made the account just to take a test - I wish that I'd stayed to make friends - because I think it would have been easier that way at the time.

[Anela]

I say ignore them. They made their choice. It's all marketing, and if the super-hot guys won't contact them, then those women should accept that they are not the females the super-hot guys want. Period.

 

Good advice for all of the men out there who complain that the super-hot women and girls don't want them, as well.

[grkBoy]

Good advice for all of the men out there who complain that the super-hot women and girls don't want them, as well.

 

No...women should wake up and realize how worthless they are in the world. Forget your college degrees, careers, paychecks, etc...the only value you women have is the body, face, and what's between your legs. Men, especially successful ones, could care less who you are on the inside. We only care if you look hot and put out.

 

You women should stop complaining when men don't want to commit and accept the ugly nice guy you all reject is your only chance at a husband and father for your little brats. Real men won't give up their money, time, or freedom for any woman...not when there's a plethora of easy young pu$$y out there to pick up once you put enough alcohol in them.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Just kidding. I'm just in the mood to push buttons.

 

I wholeheartedly agree on your actual reply. Men who email the hot chicks and never get a reply should also open up those "standards" (if they haven't.)

[Star Gazer]

Is eH really better than the other free sites...? I've never tried them since they rejected me years ago...

 

In terms of finding a RELATIONSHIP, not just pulling a**...IME, yes.

[sm1tten]

Eh, I really disliked eHarmony. After completing that long, long questionnaire I did a free trial and had some serious objections to the people they matched me with. But mileage varies of course. I know a couple getting married after meeting off Craigslist, haha. *not Casual Encounters*