decor17 Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 My husband lost his job around the same time I discovered I was pregnant with our second child. We had to relocate to where his family is from - I left my family, friends and managerial job to follow him and start our new life. I had to stay where I was while he moved to the new city. I find out (thorugh emails - he let me borrow his laptop as mine wasn't working) and all was discovered. He met a woman at his his job almost immediately. They had a 5 month long relationship that lasted up to the day I gave birth. As I was in another city, he invited her to our apartment - they used our BED for their trysts - during their lunch hours and after work. I would visit on weekends. I remember once finding a long curly brown har in our bed - he snattched it of ny hands and said it was mine.After discovery he told me that he decided to leave her the minute that he saw the baby for the firt time - yet they continued to work together. I visited the on the week-ends slept on that same bed he had used to screw ths girl perhaps even that after noon. Since then i have discovered tons of his lies - like losing his wedding ring - he never told me for a YEAR - I discovered that he was trying to buy one that looked similar to pass it off as the real one. There have also been instances of strip clubs, collecting porn and sexually driven and initiated by him - boss - with other male co-workers about breasts sizing, getting lapdances and rating which women are hot. These are the emails he sends at work. I hate him on so many levels - it is hard to cope What hurt me the most was the fact that he brought her to the apartment where after losing his job, where we were supposed to start a new life with a new baby - these memories are now marked by thoughts of him screwing her in our bed for months. Someone please help me -
Woman In Blue Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 Decor, I'm really sorry you find yourself in this position. You've made alot of sacrifices for a jerk who clearly doesn't deserve you and doesn't appreciate it. Being honest, I'm not going to tell you to do the hard work of reconciliation because I have a feeling you'd be the ONLY one doing the hard work - while he continues acting like a horse's ass behind your back. For lack of a better word, he's nothing short of a pig. It probably won't be long before other posters start with their dime-store psychology judgments and tell you he's a 'sex addict.' They always do instead of calling a spade a spade - he's an inappropriate pig with boundary issues. If you want a lifetime of heartache, stay with this jerk. Me? I'd be gone before sundown. Good luck to you.
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