Buttercup84 Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 So my ex and I lived together for two years.It's been a month and I am back at my parents. He is sending me the bond form from our house that we rented , for me to sign and send back to him.I just gave him my address. Just now I thought how **** that makes me feel that he is so business like now , and he just wants this to get out of the way.Plus I am sure he has someone over in our old house.Makes me sick. So I just emailed him saying how it will be so hard to see that form and I find it so ****ing unfair that someone else will be able to be with him and he should send that form asap so I can get it over with. I blocked his private and work email then. I feel horrible doing that , but is it for the best ? I can't believe it is so final now.
pacifica Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 Hi Buttercup84. I can relate. It's good you're the one who has moved out. I was in a similar situation but was still living in the apartment. There were so many memories everywhere I turned. It was horrible. I don't know what your breakup was over, so can't comment upon whether or not blocking him was the right thing to do. It's understandable that you'd want to though, seeing as you think he's with someone else. One thing's for sure we all want what we can't have so I'd say by blocking him you've increased your chances of getting back with him, if that's what you want. Take care.
Author Buttercup84 Posted August 26, 2011 Author Posted August 26, 2011 Oh I am sorry about that , I can imagine how hard that would be. He dumped be because he was no longer in love.I always broke nc but blocked him just in case. Don't think he will ever come back though hope you're well xx
PegNosePete Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 It's good that he is business-like. How do you expect him to be, and how would it be different if he were like that?
Author Buttercup84 Posted August 26, 2011 Author Posted August 26, 2011 It's just a shock from us always using eachothers petnames , he hardly used my real name when we were together , just his name for me. He always said I love you , had xoxox at the end etc. Now he is a stranger.Just a slap in the face really.
PegNosePete Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 Ya but if he carried on using pet names and putting xoxox at the end then it would be even more of a slap in the face surely! That would just be insulting!!
Author Buttercup84 Posted August 26, 2011 Author Posted August 26, 2011 I know , it's my first break-up so it is all new to me and he was my first love.Just gotta get used to it.
Viv Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 I understand, it's like they have no emotion left for you, my ex's last email used my name (never used to) and ended so matter of fact, it was the worst one I've received. It leaves you wondering if they really feel like that or are just putting on a facade. I guess the best thing is to assume that's how they feel now but it really does suck! Good reason for NC though.
geegirl Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 It's just a shock from us always using eachothers petnames , he hardly used my real name when we were together , just his name for me. He always said I love you , had xoxox at the end etc. Now he is a stranger.Just a slap in the face really. It's a break up. He has to be business like and it is better for you that he is. If he wasn't, you will cling to every nice and kind word. He can't say all those things to you and he can't be anything other than business like because it's of a different dynamic now. His emotions on not on your level. I know it is hard but trust me when I say he is doing the right thing by being straightforward with you. Anything other and you will be hopeful and clinging.
ConfusedT Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 Yea, business is business. It is a lot easier than seeing the lovey-dovey things that'll make you cry. I personally would not have said anything regarding the form, but whatever makes you feel better. I tend to disagree about the blocking of facebook/email/etc. that is just my own opinion. Unless you are obsessive/compulsive and cant control yourself from stalking or contacting, i dont believe it is absolutely necessary, because at some point you will have to deal with it! on the other end, if hearing from him at all will make you digress in your healing process, then i agree with the blocking. i chose not to do anything/block anything and just deal with the emotions of if he called/texted/etc, because i knew it would make me stronger. He did call ONCE, but i have stuck by my guns!!
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