Severely Unamused Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 I completely agree. If you are no longer in love with your wife then go for a divorce. I certainly wouldn't want a husband to stay with me just for the child's sake. If you divorce before the child is born they baby will have never known the two of you to live together and may make it easier. At any rate, you certainly wouldn't be doing your wife any favor by staying with her but really desiring your OW. Do the right thing - divorce. Let your wife treat a man who is in love with her like the king. The way I see it is quite simple: if you aren't in love with your SO anymore than talk to them about it, and both of you can deal with it together. Maybe through divorce, maybe through a marriage in appearances only, maybe through other means. OP (if this is real) has decided to most likely pull some silly stunt, delaying the inevitable fall. That's my take on it.
Steen719 Posted August 30, 2011 Posted August 30, 2011 It looks like the original poster has left the building There should be some kind of requirement, that a poster has to stick around, and be involved in their thread for, at least some period of time----otherwise we are just all talking to each other!!!!!! I don't think he liked what we said????
stillafool Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 I don't think he liked what we said???? You are right. They ususally run when we tell them to divorce the spouse and let someone else be happy with them. Usually they want to hang on to the affair partner and the spouse or they aren't interested.
Author armstm Posted September 7, 2011 Author Posted September 7, 2011 No, I have not left the building. But I want to thank everyone for their comments. Good and bad. Just to let you all know, I had stop contact with the OW and thiings were starting to go ok with me and my wife. Until........I get to work on Monday 29th Sep, and find an email from the OW which said "I wanted things to be so different.. I Love you!" It completely screwed with my head. I sent her a text and asked why she would do that. She said that she just wanted me to know that love was not the reason why she had to end it, it was all just too much and that she just needed me to know that she loved me and always will. Before she emailed me, my wife and I were going 'ok' considering. We spoke about a few things and agreed that some things needed to change. But now I just can't get the OW out of my head. I am going mental!!!!! Just so everyone knows, my child will get all the support it needs until the day I die, regardless of what happens to my situation.
Mme. Chaucer Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 How many ways can this IDENTICAL story be told here? Is there really a new guy every week with the same story who discovers LoveShack and shares it here? I hope not, it's disheartening.
Saul Goodman Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 (edited) How many ways can this IDENTICAL story be told here? Is there really a new guy every week with the same story who discovers LoveShack and shares it here? I hope not, it's disheartening. That's life ain't it? People f__k up. You f__k up. Other people f__k up. Nobody learns anything. If they learn something, odds are, it's only want they want to learn. Not what they need to learn to instigate a significant change in their character. I know people like that. I'm sure most people do too. Lets look at OP's sitch from a logical stand point here. He had an affair. Instead of pulling a 180, he's maintaining the same secretive behaviour that helped him get deep into this mess in the first place. Some people won't really learn until the sh_t truly hits the fan. A big slap in the face. Edited September 7, 2011 by Saul Goodman
nyrias2 Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 How many ways can this IDENTICAL story be told here? Is there really a new guy every week with the same story who discovers LoveShack and shares it here? I hope not, it's disheartening. Well, statistics is not on your side. You know about the infidelity rate right? There are MILLIONS out there with the same story. ONLY a small fraction ever find LS.
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