edwards99 Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 Hi all..even after gettin that second chance..i think the resentment has killed any chances..i am now at the piont where its not going to work..but i feel like i beed some ecouragement..i am scared of being alone..not finding love again..i want hoth of us to be happy..together i dont c that happening..i dont know how to do this..i think i still love her..
WindWhisperer Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 I'm sorry you are going through this. You make a good point though. I go through 2 states of mind. One minute I think that the resentment I would have would be too great and we could never be fully happy. Then suddenly I remember why I love him and if he would be willing to work hard on the relationship like I am. There is something holding me back from fully accepting its truly over. Is it the same for u? What I DO know is that if its over for both of us and our exesa for good... It will eventually get better. Its time that is our enemy right now. Take it day by day. And when you go to bed night acknowledge that you are one more day closer to recovery. Wish I could be more helpful. Wish I could take my own advice all the time. But I know its difficult.
Seraph1 Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 i dont know how to do this..i think i still love her.. I'm sorry to hear that your second chance didn't work out the way that you would have wished and hoped. I think that the pain of getting your ex back and realising that it isn't what you want is something quite new and rarely explored. Not many people like to admit that taking a wayward ex back was not the happy ending they had been pining for. I have no doubt that you still care about her. I have no doubt that you tried. I have no doubt that you are confused! You thought that you were getting the fairy tale ending and that everything would work out like in the movies...it's what I thought the first time I was offered a second chance. If you believe that this relationship has run its course then it is time to be honest with your SO. Explain to her that you care about her but that you are very unhappy in your relationship and don't believe that you will both be able to overcome all the issues you face in order to make it work. See what she has to say...but be firm and committed to your decision. Being confused and sending mixed signals is only going to hurt you both more in the long run. If you end this then I would suggest strict NC and moving on with your life. I think that a second chance can be a beautiful thing to help you really put someone that you loved with all your heart into the past. There are no unaswered questions this way but the pain can be quite awful to live through a second time. Good luck.
Unrequitedlove Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 I completely understand where you're coming from as far as still being angry with your significant other even after you both have reconciled. I was there with my first love, and boy, did I give him waaay too many second chances. I would first address the issue with her. Let her know why you're still angry and discuss the option of starting a clean slate, if you really do want to continue being with her. If you feel that isn't an option, well, I don't really think I'd the first to tell you that YES! You will find love again, and yes! It will be painful at first. I want to add that if you're scared of breaking up with her only because you're afraid of being alone, it'll never work.
wilsonx Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 Hi all..even after gettin that second chance..i think the resentment has killed any chances..i am now at the piont where its not going to work..but i feel like i beed some ecouragement..i am scared of being alone..not finding love again..i want hoth of us to be happy..together i dont c that happening..i dont know how to do this..i think i still love her.. This is why second chances never work, you can't ever get over this while in a relationship. It's so hard, you have to be almost extremely religious to the point where you can even forgive cheating and accept it to be able to make a second chance actually work out
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