Jonnyy Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 So ive been NC for a week now. Now my question is if my ex tries to contact me while im trying to do NC do i reply back? or does NC mean literally no contact at all and completely ignore her?
Rorschach64 Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 It is dependant on what the message recieved is about. I do not know what your break was all about, but how I am rolling with my NC is not accepting any messages or replying to them unless it is an apology tacked on with let's work stuff out bit of business. Literally be about that, not "I miss you" or "I hope you are okay, I was thinking about you." That crap is not their business since they tossed you away, or I assume about this situation is the case, since most around here will say it is an ego boosting or them trying to see if you are still there waiting for them.
Author Jonnyy Posted August 25, 2011 Author Posted August 25, 2011 It is dependant on what the message recieved is about. I do not know what your break was all about, but how I am rolling with my NC is not accepting any messages or replying to them unless it is an apology tacked on with let's work stuff out bit of business. Literally be about that, not "I miss you" or "I hope you are okay, I was thinking about you." That crap is not their business since they tossed you away, or I assume about this situation is the case, since most around here will say it is an ego boosting or them trying to see if you are still there waiting for them. thanks man! Thats what my initial plan was and now im for sure stickin to it. I just wasnt real sure on what ppl on here defined NC as officially. But thanks for your input and opinion! it helped alot
just_scott Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 no contact can mean whatever you want it to mean ,can mean you don't contact the ex BUT she can contact you it's your choice if you want to reply to the ex or not ,maybe they'll say something you been waiting for them to say ya never know
california15 Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 (edited) Nope. Nada. Zip. Zilch. Niet. Non. No. NC. Its called NO Contact. Not CENAT - Contact Every Now And Then. Not LC = Limited Contact. Although some people are still struggling with NC and do CENAT/LC instead, you will not see anyone here advocate for it. No one is going to say "LC is the way to go!" I've always said, unless its in plain black and white "I made a mistake. I want to be with you." then anything else is crumbs and not worth my time in responding to. I don't think if THEY reach out with bread crumbs of "i miss you" it is considered breaking NC - if and only if I don't write back. Once you cave and respond, then yes NC is 'broken' because you're initiating contact with them. Posters here will advocate NC includes but is not limited to FB, cyberstalking blogs and dating sites, etc. Personally, I think its up to you and how badly you want to move on, to decide how you'll interpret and adhere to the 'rules' of NC. Edited August 26, 2011 by california15
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