Lilmisus Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 I was thinking about it not too long ago, and I realized that I pretty much loathe dating. Strong word? Yes...but I feel that strongly against it I think. Don't get me wrong..I love having a good time, flirting, and seeing what guys are out there, but I hate the process of doing so. I also hate the anxiety that I get along with it when he doesn't call at the right time, or when one of us does the wrong thing, or the wondering of who's more into who At the same time though, I love the feeling of being in love, and I want that feeling back more than anything...I just don't want to have to kiss a hundred frogs in order to find that feeling of love again. I'd rather just fall in love with a prince charming who does everything right, and get past the awkward stages that are undoubtedly going to occur (like that's ever going to happen ) Any one else feel the same or am I just an idiot?
Pierre Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 I was thinking about it not too long ago, and I realized that I pretty much loathe dating. Strong word? Yes...but I feel that strongly against it I think. Don't get me wrong..I love having a good time, flirting, and seeing what guys are out there, but I hate the process of doing so. I also hate the anxiety that I get along with it when he doesn't call at the right time, or when one of us does the wrong thing, or the wondering of who's more into who At the same time though, I love the feeling of being in love, and I want that feeling back more than anything...I just don't want to have to kiss a hundred frogs in order to find that feeling of love again. I'd rather just fall in love with a prince charming who does everything right, and get past the awkward stages that are undoubtedly going to occur (like that's ever going to happen ) Any one else feel the same or am I just an idiot? I am older and prefer being in a long term relationship that is steady and without drama. :love:
ScienceGal Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 I feel the same way you do, which is probably why I am pining for my ex... it's easier than going through the hassel of finding someone new! But we'll get there. The trick is getting past the frogs quickly!
somedude81 Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 I hate the entire process. Meet a girl I might be interested in. Talk to her a couple of times, ask her out, get rejected. Once in a blue moon I'll get a date, never a second one. And then the games that women play
FeelingSmall Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 I am not a fan of dating... Too much drama, too many questions, I like knowing where I stand. Much prefer being in a LTR, having someone to come home to. I don't easily let go of that. Dating scene is CRAP. Don't know where all the "good" PEOPLE have gone, but they don't hang out where I have in the past. Feeling you on this point. I'm thrilled to have someone who loves me, I'm glad the dating part of it is over. The honeymoon has ended but now I have not only a boyfriend, but a best friend also. I figure most of the "good" people are sitting on the computer, at home with broken hearts looking for answers to why. There is no reason, only bad luck. You are definitely not an idiot.
make me believe Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 I totally used to feel the same way. I found the best way to avoid the drama & anxiety was to be totally up front about what you want and what you're feeling. Even if it feels like you're saying too much or you might freak him out.. the right person for you won't freak out by you being honest & saying that you're looking for a long-term relationship or whatever. I did this with my hubby and he was surprised that I was so up front, but he appreciated it!
sweetypielovely Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 I think dating is pretty much where 2 people pretend to be perfect and put on an act most of the time....then once you move in or relax with that person the "real" person comes out. Its so messed up. I think if you just be yourself up front and theres not questions down the line as to why this person seemed to be perfect early on and then changed. Id rather find someone im into and then see where it goes just he and I.
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