Trimmer Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 Hi, I find this forum incredibly stimulating, but I've noticed there are many people on here with over 5000 posts. That's amazing and probably very helpful to the community. But I wonder if posting here is a bit like a security blanket after a while. Kinda like home. Do we graduate off it? or Maybe we don't need to graduate off it? Interesting - I just looked at your statistics and mine, and at the moment, you and I both have 2.22 posts per day. It's just that I've been hanging around her for 6 years or so, which is exactly the subject of your question then, isn't it? Sometimes I do wonder if that is a little sad, but like others, I come and go in cycles. That would be an interesting statistic to graph - something like a bar graph of posts per week or posts per month over time. Mine would show peaks, and then long dead periods.
smudge21 Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 I first came here for help and advice, but in truth I really already knew what I had to do to heal and move on from my ex. In fact, I think most of us already know the answer to our problems, but just need it confirming in an honest friendly way; something we can't often get from people close to us. I'm still hurting, on and off, but I come on board to offer advice now rather than seek it. In a way, feeling like I'm helping actually helps me. I also find the realisation that no matter what your situation or what pain you're suffering with, there's others out there who are going through the exact same thing.
Art_Critic Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 When do I graduate ? I'm on my way to Chicago for the day on business and here I am in the airport typing on LS Does that make me a junky ?
Author bluenightowl Posted August 26, 2011 Author Posted August 26, 2011 I first came here for help and advice, but in truth I really already knew what I had to do to heal and move on from my ex. In fact, I think most of us already know the answer to our problems, but just need it confirming in an honest friendly way; something we can't often get from people close to us. I'm still hurting, on and off, but I come on board to offer advice now rather than seek it. In a way, feeling like I'm helping actually helps me. I also find the realisation that no matter what your situation or what pain you're suffering with, there's others out there who are going through the exact same thing. This is perhaps my approach as well. There is something about giving advice to others that helps one remember what I must do now or for next time.
mr.dream merchant Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 I have nothing but enemies on this forum lol. It's cool though, I love being the bad guy and if I had super powers, I'd definitely take over the world. Not even playing.
USMCHokie Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 I graduated off several years ago for almost two years and just recently returned. I noticed you're back! I came here to figure out how to get over a girl. It helped. I just like whining on here...and then having a certain member give me lots of sh*t about to.
Forever Learning Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 It's better than TV and I've made friends. I love one of 'em. You know who you are. A little birdie told me she loves you too.
dreamingoftigers Posted August 27, 2011 Posted August 27, 2011 I have nothing but enemies on this forum lol. It's cool though, I love being the bad guy and if I had super powers, I'd definitely take over the world. Not even playing. Never been your enemy, hope one day you work out your attachment And intimacy issues. No matter how snarky you may be about it.
dreamingoftigers Posted August 27, 2011 Posted August 27, 2011 I want to average 10 posts a day. Then I'll probably quit, LOL
Trimmer Posted August 27, 2011 Posted August 27, 2011 I want to average 10 posts a day. Then I'll probably quit, LOL If you make somewhere around 762 posts in the next 24 hours, you'll bring that average right up around 10/day...
Star Gazer Posted August 27, 2011 Posted August 27, 2011 When do I graduate ? I'm on my way to Chicago for the day on business and here I am in the airport typing on LS Does that make me a junky ? I've been posting from airports for the past two weeks! Where's my diploma?!
dreamingoftigers Posted August 27, 2011 Posted August 27, 2011 If you make somewhere around 762 posts in the next 24 hours, you'll bring that average right up around 10/day... I've been tracking it too.
AHardDaysNight Posted August 27, 2011 Posted August 27, 2011 I come here for answers to my datelessness. So far, I haven't found any...but I'm still hopeful.
threebyfate Posted August 27, 2011 Posted August 27, 2011 I originally came here years ago because my exH had cheated and I was looking for people in the same boat. But that feels like long-ago and far-away now. I rarely go in the infidelity forums anymore because it doesn't feel so relevant to my current storyYup, that's why I came here, searching for answers about infidelity and now, that life does seem like ancient news. That he's still in my life, as a friend/acquaintance to both my husband and myself has such an unreal quality to it. I still ask myself "how did I ever fall in love with him". Not to be vindictive but to describe how it feels, if he drove off a bridge one day, I wouldn't be too hurt by it. Such a detached, clinical feeling for a man who once tore my world apart. Anyways, I stayed for any number of reasons, working through some issues caused by the infidelity. That I'm now remarried to an amazing man, have a crazy little happy demon of a son and hopefully (fingers crossed) might be gestating our second child, just makes life so much more sweet. I'm only here sporadically, for the people who I've grown fond of over the years. It's great that some have found happiness and would be fantastic if the rest found happiness and contentment too!
D-Lish Posted August 27, 2011 Posted August 27, 2011 Yeah I know who I am, I love you too Frisky. I knew it, I saw it before the two of you did! That's how insightful I am:cool: LS is def a security blanket for me, and I'm not ashamed to admit it. When you live in a world where no one wants to believe you are vulnerble and you have to maintain that facade- LS is a great place to just be "you". It's easier to unload on strangers than the people you know best sometimes- especially when you carry the burden of others relying on you.
somedude81 Posted August 27, 2011 Posted August 27, 2011 I first came here the advice and stay for the entertainment. It's fascinating reading other peoples stories even though some of them upset me. I figure that I'll be on LS for a very long time. I just hope that in the near future I'll move from asking how to get a GF to asking how to keep a relationship going. I also look forward to giving advice to new people who have issues I've been through.
Author bluenightowl Posted August 27, 2011 Author Posted August 27, 2011 I first came here the advice and stay for the entertainment. It's fascinating reading other peoples stories even though some of them upset me. I figure that I'll be on LS for a very long time. I just hope that in the near future I'll move from asking how to get a GF to asking how to keep a relationship going. I also look forward to giving advice to new people who have issues I've been through. I've learned so much from this community already, I wish I had joined earlier. Learning from real life stories and being able to communicate with the people going through such situations, I've found to be a very enabling experience compared to reading a book.
Chinook Posted August 27, 2011 Posted August 27, 2011 I have thousands of posts, but it's over several years and my visits are sporadic. I have to be honest, I visit Loveshack in my time of need but when I am here, I always try to help other but also learn from them and their pain. It helps soothe things a little I think.
dreamingoftigers Posted August 27, 2011 Posted August 27, 2011 If you make somewhere around 762 posts in the next 24 hours, you'll bring that average right up around 10/day... Now it's 720 posts.
Citizen Erased Posted August 27, 2011 Posted August 27, 2011 I've been posting from airports for the past two weeks! Where's my diploma?! I once posted while getting a pap smear. Aren't iPhones amazing? Seems like I'm one of the only ones that stick around without going away from a time. I kinda migrated over to the water cooler after the first year and met a great group of people, including my husband. And this place was a life saver during our LDR. Most of my posts are friendly banter and "101 days til I see him!" I think it says a lot that people stay around here and post a lot. Kind of seems like this place has been taken over by newbies lately though, a lot of people have left. Hopefully not for good.
Star Gazer Posted August 27, 2011 Posted August 27, 2011 I once posted while getting a pap smear. Aren't iPhones amazing? I've done that too!!! Well, not mid-exam but while waiting naked underneath the paper "robe"!
Author bluenightowl Posted August 27, 2011 Author Posted August 27, 2011 I've done that too!!! Well, not mid-exam but while waiting naked underneath the paper "robe"! Here's a curious question. Have any of you veteran LS'ers ever gotten together in a voice chat space or talk to each other one on one? I'm just curious how strong the bonds are between some of the veterans on this board. It does seem like a very vibrant community and generally well managed for spam.
D-Lish Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 Here's a curious question. Have any of you veteran LS'ers ever gotten together in a voice chat space or talk to each other one on one? I'm just curious how strong the bonds are between some of the veterans on this board. It does seem like a very vibrant community and generally well managed for spam. I've met a few in person! I actually forged a friendship with a poster who is no longer here and we remain friends to this day. We've visited back and forth and even gone to Mexico together on vacation. I still talk to her to this day.
jerbear Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 I got trapped after my first thread. After that, I'm on LS on and off. There are a few interesting people on LS even after all these years.
Author bluenightowl Posted August 28, 2011 Author Posted August 28, 2011 I've met a few in person! I actually forged a friendship with a poster who is no longer here and we remain friends to this day. We've visited back and forth and even gone to Mexico together on vacation. I still talk to her to this day. Amazing. I wonder if LS will share their survey with this group. I have the sense this is quite an intellectual group judging by quality of some of these posts.
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