Queen of Hearts 10 Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 I text him last night and a text came back saying they we're in bed together. Wow ! That hurt he never responds. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ But to back track my story I was divorced in April 2011. For a year neither one of us has dated or seen anyone else. He is single now I have no right to him. I've always contacted him I'm the one in Love. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ She had a lot of nerve saying she is the gf I don't need to text him. I hit her hard. He slept with me last Tuesday after we had lunch ! I told her don't call me this is between him and I on his phone !! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ This has turned to trash. He must love this stuff 2 women ! Love has made me into a desperate dog unable to stop. I'm not willing to not ever hear from him again. Not able to give him up, though I know he is a liar and cheat. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Today I'm numb, in tears, lost, in disbelief, protect your hearts out there ! Toxic Love here. Need some Advice !! Queen of Nothing Land
radiodarcy Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 oh Queen! i'm so sorry to hear about this. i too would have been hurt to get a text from the ex's new gf like that. but even though what's between you and him is none of her business -- you can't control her actions any more than you can control his. as much as NC hurts, it's to protect you from things you can't control. of course, as you said you already know you have no right to him. but it's a matter of getting your heart to catch up to your brain and that takes time. lots of it. you're also right when you say he probably does love all the attention he's getting from two women literally knocking each other over him . don't give him the satisfaction or her the leverage to compare herself to you and set herself up as being "better" than you in his eyes. neither of these people deserve to have their egos indulged anymore than they already have. take all that energy and focus it on you and your healing. stay strong. you can do it. you took the first step just by coming on here. we are all here to support you.
Author Queen of Hearts 10 Posted August 25, 2011 Author Posted August 25, 2011 Radiodarcy, Thank you for the insight. I read that with more tears ! His GF is a counselor they both need to sit on the couch and look at their actions, I didn't know he was over their sleeping with her ! I will find my peace by the end of this year. I love the snow and Christmas, and I want my healing then. your words are true and kind Thank You for responding ! Queen down only for today !
radiodarcy Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 (edited) your welcome Queen! you will get better. you just have to give it time. i'm close to 6 months on NC and the first month was the worst! but it does get better, little by little. and the more time i spend away from him, the better off i realize i am - - and you will too i am surprised your ex's gf is a counselor. but they have their issues too. hers seem to be serious boundary issues. but again, don't let her make her issues, your issues. just try to focus on other things and airing your feelings out with friends or on here with us. you're in good company here Edited August 25, 2011 by radiodarcy
Chi townD Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 This guy isn't worth your time that he could show you that level of disrespect! You are better than him and you are better than her. You NEED to start walking with your head held high and tell yourself that there is a guy out there for you that this douche rocket isn't worth your time. Start NC, forget about him because when you contact him his either 1.) getting annoyed with you or 2.) you're feeding into his ego that he has two women pining over him. Don't give him the satisfaction!! You will heal from this.
just_scott Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 WOW every guys fantasy to have two girls fighting over him i think if the two of them are in a relationship now and she saw he got a text from you his ex, she had reason to say that you shouldn't be contacting him ,wouldn't you do the same if you were in a relationship and some ex of the guy was texting him while you two were together ? i think that would bother anyone
Nohbody Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 Queen, you need to stop. Seriously. Screwing up his current relationship isn't going to help YOU. You may not like me, but listen to what everyone has told you since you first came in here: Do. Not. Contact. Him. He is gone. You need to stand on your own two feet, and learn to be happy with yourself - without him in your life. You can do it, but it's going to take self discipline.
KathyM Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 I text him last night and a text came back saying they we're in bed together. Wow ! That hurt he never responds. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ But to back track my story I was divorced in April 2011. For a year neither one of us has dated or seen anyone else. He is single now I have no right to him. I've always contacted him I'm the one in Love. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ She had a lot of nerve saying she is the gf I don't need to text him. I hit her hard. He slept with me last Tuesday after we had lunch ! I told her don't call me this is between him and I on his phone !! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ This has turned to trash. He must love this stuff 2 women ! Love has made me into a desperate dog unable to stop. I'm not willing to not ever hear from him again. Not able to give him up, though I know he is a liar and cheat. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Today I'm numb, in tears, lost, in disbelief, protect your hearts out there ! Toxic Love here. Need some Advice !! Queen of Nothing Land 1. Get some counseling for yourself. You need help in moving on with your life and getting away from a toxic situation. 2. Stop letting this man use you. Have some self esteem and realize you deserve better. He doesn't deserve you. Stop contacting him. It only devalues you. Allow the gf to have the damaged goods, and start today to seek something better for yourself. Don't be weak. You have it in you to change for the better.
Author Queen of Hearts 10 Posted August 25, 2011 Author Posted August 25, 2011 I fell asleep while all of you came to help ! What a gift I found under my Christmas Tree all of you ! Radioracy Kathy M just_scott Chi town D Nohbody-(glad you are not mad at me too) ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ They want me to stop bothering them ! But he slept with me a week ago and that dirty laundry got aired last night. So the happy couple shouldn't be so happy today. How ugly all of this is. When will he see the disrespect, and devalue of women here ? Everyone is hurt by his actions. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I joined a dating site and got a fantastic response so many e-mails I couldn't answer them , the men in my area we're right there. But it has a lot of predators in my eyes as well. But I just want to make some friends. I'm in no shape to start dating, fresh wounds. I have to get well. I work nights, and start a class next week. Thank you again. I don't want to post on here any more garbage ! I hope to have a happy post soon. Queen of Hearts 10
just_scott Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 QUEEN hi no need to start datting again yet ,when you're ready you will and it will be a fresh new relationship with someone who will treat you as you deserve to be treated.. right now sure just go through the e-mails you recieved from the datting site ,read how people are respnding to you -that should make you feel better and lift your spirits.make some friends along the way with positive people ,you'll be out of your funk before you know it and look back and not even care about your ex he'll be out of your life and mind -it was a break up happens to everyone don't dwell too much on it ,something better is out their somewhere
Author Queen of Hearts 10 Posted August 25, 2011 Author Posted August 25, 2011 Scott, It has helped so much on the dating site. Real nice men at least they are people trying like you are to help people ! I called my EX this morning and he said he feel asleep and she got a hold of his phone and called me ! I use to be in her place always suspicious. Well she now has her head spinning, knowing he has been with us both. I told him I love him and will always ! I told him to change his phone # to silence me. I hope he does. He always has trouble in his life. He caused it all. I will try to move on from here ! I'm sorry I need to recover from this bad person. How mean ! Emptiness! Nothingness~~Queen
just_scott Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 well if you got your ex's head spinning their probably gonna have a big blow out over the situation - he may even come calling on you BUT do you want someone back in your life that's cheatted on you that's gonna be up to you to decide . just be careful on that internet datting site theirs a lot of people on then just using them to get dates you really don't know what you coul be getting that was kind of big of you to tell him to change his phone # to silence you, BUT you can silence yourself just by being strong and having the will power not to contact him , or reply to his contacts -sometimes it's bettetr to let things sit a while before you attempt to re connect you can't force that kind of stuff it's got to happen willingly
MidnightinMadrid Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 This guy isn't worth your time that he could show you that level of disrespect! You are better than him and you are better than her. You NEED to start walking with your head held high and tell yourself that there is a guy out there for you that this douche rocket isn't worth your time. Start NC, forget about him because when you contact him his either 1.) getting annoyed with you or 2.) you're feeding into his ego that he has two women pining over him. Don't give him the satisfaction!! You will heal from this. I wish someone told me that when he told me he was in bed with his Ho,i mean gf. I kick myself not telling him good you can go F yourself while your at it. Of course she would tell you that,but imagine if he was being a Pr%&k and told you the same. Dont do like I did and drag a dead end non relationship where theres not even the dust left from the corpse,its soo dead. Funny thing he still contact me but i can never forgive nor foget,make a clean break,and run run run from this loser and his loserette.
Author Queen of Hearts 10 Posted August 26, 2011 Author Posted August 26, 2011 Thank you Midnight in Madrid ! I hate that the end of a beautiful love that began back in 2008 has turned to a cheap garbage story ! My Ex created a mess in his life and 2 other women's lives. His stone cold heart, and selfish ways now leaves a trail of his type of uncaring love he spreads. Today is my new beginning of "No Contact" so there it is left a dead love not to look at as it decomposes on the ground ! Reckless, toxic, poison, addicted lack of love ! I have Survived and all of you have pulled me from the wreckage ! Queen of Hearts 10
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