bunny1 Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 We have been together for about 6 months. Recently she told me we need to go on a break due to my jealousy/trust issues. I told her i dont think a break helps a relationship, she said I need space. We have been talking, she contacted me first as well. She tells me she loves me, calls me baby, asks if i am okay but says we cant be together just yet. she says soon. I am confused because I have told her i get what i did wrong and i can fix that.. yet still we are on this break. Should I leave her alone, not write her or keep in touch with her with texts from time to time or did she just break up with me in a nice way? Please help. thanks.
EgoJoe Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 If she's initiating thats good. However, a break can mean many things depending on the circumstances. Three things it ALWAYS means are questioning, self doubt AND loss of attraction.
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 We have been together for about 6 months. Recently she told me we need to go on a break due to my jealousy/trust issues. I told her i dont think a break helps a relationship, she said I need space. We have been talking, she contacted me first as well. She tells me she loves me, calls me baby, asks if i am okay but says we cant be together just yet. she says soon. I am confused because I have told her i get what i did wrong and i can fix that.. yet still we are on this break. Should I leave her alone, not write her or keep in touch with her with texts from time to time or did she just break up with me in a nice way? Please help. thanks. treat it as a break up. Go NC immediately and decide for yourself whether you will take her calls or reply to her texts, emails, or IM's according to whether she is coming closer to you. if you don't gain any ground then go full blown NC and just ignore her completely. My ex and I did the break thing about a year before our final breakup. At the end of the break our relationship did actually feel stronger (guess not seems we broke up), but also take note that yes we did go on a "break" but we kept the titles boyfriend/girlfriend for the whole break. If she's initiating thats good. However, a break can mean many things depending on the circumstances. Three things it ALWAYS means are questioning, self doubt AND loss of attraction. agree, although loss of attraction is debatable. "you don't know what you have until it's gone"
Author bunny1 Posted August 25, 2011 Author Posted August 25, 2011 treat it as a break up. Go NC immediately and decide for yourself whether you will take her calls or reply to her texts, emails, or IM's according to whether she is coming closer to you. if you don't gain any ground then go full blown NC and just ignore her completely. My ex and I did the break thing about a year before our final breakup. At the end of the break our relationship did actually feel stronger (guess not seems we broke up), but also take note that yes we did go on a "break" but we kept the titles boyfriend/girlfriend for the whole break. agree, although loss of attraction is debatable. "you don't know what you have until it's gone" I agree with the self doubt and questioning , but im hoping there is no loss of attraction. Thank you all for the advice though its really helpful
EgoJoe Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 Take heart, attraction can be regained. Now is the time for you to learn to be the man in your relationships this one or the next, now and forever. Read: al.turtlecounseling.com and www.bettermen.org the 10$ book "Hold on to your N.U.T.S" is worth it and cheap. Al Turtle is a genius Imago Therapist and Relationship Counsellor. His stuff isn't just for romantic Relationships as the communication techniques are FAR reaching. I've been linking these all over the forums as they have helped tremendously.
Fedor Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 Do your own thing. Shes being selfish in wanting space from you so dont give her any of your time. Correct your mistakes and move on.
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