jordkorn Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 I guess I am just venting a little. I Know I should not care what she does with her life but we have been broken up for 5 months then I find out she is pregnant. It is not mine so I am a little confused, disappointed, angry about the whole situation. Why should i care when she left me for another guy while we were on vacation. It is just hard to take it has not been that long i know i am not over her but obviously she is over me. It is too much to handle
fetish1980 Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 i know it hurts but just because she's pregnant or with someone else doesn't mean she's happy. it also doesn't mean she's over you but it really doesn't matter at this point. how long were you guys together? fetish
Nohbody Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 She's well on the way to entangling her life in a joyless, soul crushing tedium that will reduce her to a shell of her former self. Or so one can hope anyway;) Seriously, the best you can do now is heal and move on completely. It would appear that door has closed, can't say if it's forever or not, can't say if it matters or not. Time to refocus on yourself, and let her go her own way.
danceallday Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 There is nothing that makes people grow up faster then having children. If she was hurtful and selfish towards you then this child will help her realize that it isn't about her. It is about the person she is bringing into this world. I am betting that she will apologize to you someday.
wilsonx Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 There is nothing that makes people grow up faster then having children. If she was hurtful and selfish towards you then this child will help her realize that it isn't about her. It is about the person she is bringing into this world. I am betting that she will apologize to you someday. I completely disagree with this post from not only experience but 2 friends that have done the same thing to their ex's and have kids from outside of a relationship. Having a kid does not make an emotionally immature person grow up. They still jump the grass is greener fence whenever they think it's true. One of my friends that did this actually ended an engagement only to start sleeping with her ex fiance's best friend. Are the original couple back together now, yes, but she cheated on him and not only that, but has asked me to date her.
Author jordkorn Posted September 1, 2011 Author Posted September 1, 2011 we were together for 2 years and she constantly nagged me to get marriied and have kids well that is all she wanted all the time we were together
ScienceGal Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 we were together for 2 years and she constantly nagged me to get marriied and have kids well that is all she wanted all the time we were together Then she's getting what she wants, which isn't you, and probably isn't the guy she is with now. She has the idea in her head that she needs certain things by a certain time in her life. She could not be more wrong. My money is on that they don't last... getting pregnant so quickly in a relationship is a horrible idea. I know you still care for her, but seriously, you should feel lucky to not be with someone that just wants to use you to get married and pregnant. You deserve someone that loves you and wants to experience life with you. You deserve to get what you want... what do you want?
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