change Posted August 24, 2011 Posted August 24, 2011 I'm posting this here rather than in the "dating" forums on LS because I really would like feedback from others in my situation -- that club of individuals that exists here who have been through or are going through a divorce. So. Onto the main entree of this post: dating. Compared with seven years ago, it feels like there are suddenly no rules! You can spend evenings and weekends with someone, have intimacy with someone, possibly go on a short vacation with someone... and yet not be "in a relationship." There are f*ckbuddies and friends with benefits and all kinds of crazy things in-between. Was I just unaware of this the first time around? Am I the only one surprised by what I've found as I come "back onto the market"? How do you relate dating landscape post-divorce? Did ya'll purposefully remain "single" for awhile? I'd love to hear some experiences from the collective divorce/life wisdom of LS. Thanks, friends!
LifesontheUp Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 I purposefully stayed away from bars and clubs when going through divorce as I really wasn't interested in being chatted/picked up whether it would be for ONS or otherwise. In fact, I was happy being by myself - had taken up new hobbies and interests. Went out most nights and came and went as I pleased, just enjoyed life. Now, a work colleague of mine whose wife left him with 2 kids around the same time I found out about my xH affair - he went out and went wild on the weekends whilst his parents had the kids. He had numerous ONS and a couple of women who he had a friends with benefits situation going. I'm not saying that either way is wrong or right, I think its up to the person involved to deal with the situation and do what they feel best for them.
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