waliz Posted August 24, 2011 Posted August 24, 2011 I can't get into my new apartment until Sept 2. That means 8 more days with him. What does NC mean in this setting? A few of my ideas: Don't get into conversations Stay in different rooms Don't eat meals together. Don't get sucked back into interactions we would have as a couple. Make plans for my evenings and stick to them. Don't respond to emails and texts (even thought I check my phone 17 times /hour to see if there is one from him). I want this all to be over. I"m tired of hurting all the time. I didn't deserve this.
Viv Posted August 24, 2011 Posted August 24, 2011 Wow that's really tough, I'm sure you've already thought of this but are there any friends/family you can stay with until then? I stayed in the flat with my ex until it got unbearable and then left to stay with family, and even though I really hadn't wanted to, I felt better immediately having some space. And then you don't have to let them see how much you are hurting?
Author waliz Posted August 25, 2011 Author Posted August 25, 2011 Wow that's really tough, I'm sure you've already thought of this but are there any friends/family you can stay with until then? I stayed in the flat with my ex until it got unbearable and then left to stay with family, and even though I really hadn't wanted to, I felt better immediately having some space. And then you don't have to let them see how much you are hurting? I like the part about him not seeing how much I hurt.
Buttercup84 Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 I'm so sorry. can't he stay somewhere until you move out ? Since you're the one who got dumped he should do that .
Author waliz Posted August 25, 2011 Author Posted August 25, 2011 It never occurred to me for him to move out while I am packing and getting ready to go. I really need to no contact, and I really need him to see that I'm ok and moving on. When this all happened I fell apart and was pathetic. We went through a phase of doing things together: tennis, biking, dinner together. I suppose that was the denial stage. Now I just cry all the time and think how unfair this all is. What stage is this?
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