Bether6278 Posted May 4, 2004 Posted May 4, 2004 I'm a new member to this site,and have a dilemma. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 months now,and we have a great relationship. We think alike, have so much fun together, and compliment each other in lots of ways. I've never felt this comfortable with anyone, nor have I ever felt as if I've met the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. My problem is this. He goes away for 3-4 days at a time for work, and doesn't contact me at all while he's away. I've explained that I am a worrier by nature,and that I would appreciate a quick call or email when he's away just to know that everything is ok. He usually says that he will call or email..and then doesn't. Once again, he's away on an interview..and no word. He left yesterday morning, isn't due back until Thursday evening and he said he would call. I even made a point to give him my calling card number since his cell is currently broken I don't know if it has something to do with his ADHD, or if he just gets so involved in what he's doing that he doesn't think about it. When I don't hear from him, i start creating scenarios in my mind..what if,what if..and I know this stems from my first marriage and being lied to repeatedly. I really try not to pin the faults of my ex on him, and i try to take it one day at a time. He's given me no reason not to trust him. I'm just trying to find out if this is a guy thing, an adhd thing or what..I drive myself nuts waiting for the call/email...need to get over this! Any comments or suggestions are appreciated!
bluechocolate Posted May 4, 2004 Posted May 4, 2004 something to do with his ADHD, or if he just gets so involved in what he's doing that he doesn't think about it. replace the "or if" in that sentence with "and" My limited understanding of the subject of ADHD would lead to me say that that could most certainly be the reason why he doesn't call you when he's away. You say everything else is great - does he call you when he's not away? Maybe things are a bit different where you are, but here I could buy a very inexpensive pay-as-you-go mobile phone. Why don't you get him one and call or text him?
Author Bether6278 Posted May 4, 2004 Author Posted May 4, 2004 Thanks for responding. When he is in town, we spend almost every night together..we talk online while i'm at work..we are almost always in contact with one another. I think I am just letting my insecurities and past experiences get the best of me, and I certainly don't want to ruin this relationship
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