IceIceBaby Posted August 24, 2011 Posted August 24, 2011 My boyfriend and I vacationed together over this past weekend and ended up getting into some serious talks about the future. Probably not the best time to have these talks, but it happened. A quick history, I'm 29 and he's 33. We've been together for a year and are both very serious about the relationship. I've always had a few concerns about us eventually marrying and having kids mainly because of the way he was raised and how different it is from the way I was raised. He comes from a family, which even he admits, is different. They are very loud, in your face and borderline on rude at times. They are extremely close and loving as well, but there's some bad history there in regards to the way the kids were raised. His family also are big spenders...constantly going on vacations, expensive dinners, buying new flat screen TVs, etc. I was raised very differently. My parents were definitely more strict and I was raised to have manners and be respectful. My parents spend money and we went on vacations as well, but they also saved and were careful. When my boyfriend and I talk about raising kids or finances, we often have different opinions and views. There are some things we agree on, but alot we don't. We have agreed that there would definitely have to be compromises if we end up marrying. But sometimes I'm not sure if we're the best match. We love each other very much and both see a future together, but is that enough? I see him being an amazing father, but I would be hesitant to bring our future child around his parents due to the nature of things they say in front of kids. I don't think sexual comments or swearing is appropriate for a 5 year old to hear. I think my boyfriend agrees on that, but I don't see him having the courage to stand up to his father and tell him that wouldn't be allowed in front of our kids. Has anyone had a successful marraige with someone who is very different from them? Or is this a recipe for disaster?
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