ConfuseddOne Posted August 24, 2011 Posted August 24, 2011 Alright so I'm sure a couple of yall know or have read my story on here. So here is another update. It's been about three months since she broke up with me. Now I find out she is dating someone else. I was very shocked to see it but then again I'm anxious to see what's gonna happen. We have a class together every Monday and Wednesday. I also have two classes with her room mate the one who pretty much broke us up. Im gonna just be friends with my ex and try to stay cool about the situation. This is because I don't want things to be awkward between us and especially in class. She randomly texted me a couple days ago right after class saying "Same class huh haha" She still sends me random texts like and now i find out shes with someone else. What does it mean? Also me and her mom still text occasionally. Her mom said she has said "Very little things" about this new guy. I find that very curious because they are really close and talk about everything. This guy also works as a bartender, doesn't have a Facebook, and even looks like me. I have heard it's because he is a player and doesn't want to get caught cheating or talking to other girls on it. Anyways I feel better after venting on here, Thoughts? Should I just be her friend or completely ignore her and make it very awkward when I see her? I'm thinking "Kill her with kindness." We are each others first loves, dated 11 months and never faught. It was pretty much her friends encouraging her to breakup with me saying she can do better. Now she is with the "Bad Boy/Player" after going from me the "Nice Guy/Gentleman."
shayla Posted August 24, 2011 Posted August 24, 2011 I have been having the same thoughts. I don't see my ex the way you see yours so I will be ignoring him and the skank he married.....uh nevamind about that...lol In your case because you are seeing her all the time, I'd say hello if she is right in your face, but I would keep it moving from there and not say anything else to her. And I would not care to know about her and other guys, because that doesn't help you heal in any way, and being her friend and hearing about it from her or her family would be like a hot knife in the heart, no thank you.
FinOuch Posted August 24, 2011 Posted August 24, 2011 This guy also works as a bartender, doesn't have a Facebook, and even looks like me. I have heard it's because he is a player and doesn't want to get caught cheating or talking to other girls on it. Anyways I feel better after venting on here, Thoughts? Should I just be her friend or completely ignore her and make it very awkward when I see her? I'm thinking "Kill her with kindness." We are each others first loves, dated 11 months and never faught. It was pretty much her friends encouraging her to breakup with me saying she can do better. Now she is with the "Bad Boy/Player" after going from me the "Nice Guy/Gentleman." Please don't make the mistake of comparing yourself to this guy or analyzing their relationship. It might make you feel good in the present moment, but it really does draw out the whole healing and moving on process in the long run. Bottom line is that she chose this guy, and even if it is the worst decision in the world...it's her decision. No matter how badly you want to you, can not save her from whatever consequences may come. It's very big of you to stay friends with her, and I'm assuming you do this because of the situation in which will inevitably see her now and then...and not out of some misplaced hope that she may change her mind. This same concept may be the explanation fo why she continues to send you random texts; if she suspects that you guys may bump into each other frequently, she's likely trying to keep it friendly so that it isn't hostile or awkward. I wouldn't read too much into her texts. It's better for you to assume it means nothing than to use it as a way to bolster hope. As for remaining her friend; I would suggest, for your own well being, that you keep her at arm's length. You know...the aquaintance sort of friend who you don't really have any interaction with unless they are right in your face or there is a necessary reason to. Try to avoid making the mistake of thinking an treating her as more of an aquaintance. It's better to do this and be wrong than to think of her in "girlfriend" terms and be wrong. Right?
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