SincereOnlineGuy Posted August 27, 2011 Posted August 27, 2011 You're obviously operating by your own set of rules. It's traditional for the man to pay (or at least offer to pay) on the first date. And it seems you're referencing an antiquated set of rules. The present 'rule' is that whoever extends the invitation pays for the 'date', at least by default. And lord knows that many of today's arrangements don't even have a 'man' in the equation.
dreamingoftigers Posted August 27, 2011 Posted August 27, 2011 Tell that to the homeless people who on occasion marry one another, and tell that to the various culprits who are arrested and/or ticketed for committing lewd acts outdoors and in plain sight because they have no homes to go to. Married a homeless guy. If he didn't have screwed up childhood issues, it would still be so much damn fun. He was awesome the first 3 years of our marriage. Great sex too.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted August 27, 2011 Posted August 27, 2011 Maybe I should have suggested we go out for ice cream tonight instead of dinner. Well, on the bottom line, whether you "suggested" the get-together or not determines solely whether you are right or wrong in your rant here. (admittedly nothing I've read so far makes it clear who invited who out for the rendezvous) (although others are sure they know this answer: ) OP, you'd make me laugh if it wasn't all so pathetic. You asked this girl out...
Take-a-hint Posted August 27, 2011 Posted August 27, 2011 I met a girl tonight for the first time at a cafe that served sandwiches, salads, and pizza. So when we stood up to order i let her go first and order er food and steppped to the side. So after the cashier totaled her order why didn't she tell the girl the final number so she could pay for it? So when it came time for me to order the girl told me the final number and said that will be $25.00. First of all I had only $35.00 in my wallet and expected to spend $15 on my food so I could keep the rest of the money for a possible 6th date on Friday. So I looked at the cashier and didn't want to make a scene and just threw the money at her while the girl back was turned. The fact that I'm unemployed I'm trying to plan my outings carefully and had no intentions on paying for her food. Still trying to figure out why the cashier never asked her to pay after she finished ordering or i don't know if the girl told the cashier "he will pay" So she may have disquaified herself from a second date because she defintely was supposed to have her wallet out when I let her order first. So annoyed right now. Don't know why you are trying to date a girl if you can't afford it. No girl is going to be interested in someone with no money. Especially if you just met the girl...and didn't want to pay for her meal...then you should have just said so to the cashier...(embarrassing, i'll admit). Just say, "I can't afford it." You would have definately lost the girl's interest, but at least you wouldn't have had to pay for her meal...nor waste her time and your time. No money = no girl...deal with it.... The cashier thought you were trying to be the man...obviously not. I hope she blew you off.
TroyNJ Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 And I suppose the OP can't understand why he can't land a decent woman. I'm lesser of a human for spending 15 minutes to read this thread. Excuse me while I go blow my head off lol....
musemaj11 Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 I think it is possible for someone to not only like someone genuinely but also appreciate their level of monetary success. When I asked my husband out for our first date, he had been recently laid off and had not found a new gig. He was smart, funny and attractive and (tho I didn't know this bit) the library where he had been working had closed temporarily due to funding. Still not like it was a high paying job or anything. Now its 7 years later and he makes enough that I could leave and he would still be able to maintain our place without my income. Does it make me a gold digger if I now enjoy his increase in income? Or is it just icing on a cake I already thought delicious? Things are not always so sinister fellas. If a woman takes interest in a man when he still has less and later on he finds success, then its irrelevant since obviously his money has near zero factor in her interest in him because his wealth came later after she already fell for him.
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