annabanana85 Posted August 24, 2011 Posted August 24, 2011 So I met this guy in a club two weeks ago and started dating. We went on 5-6 dates so far and have been spending every weekend together since then. He is extremely nice to me, buys me flowers, always picks me up with his car, sends me really sweet text messages every night. At first I was not really into him because I met him in a club so I did not want to trust him. He is also not very educated and not exactly my physical type but his niceness made me like him. Last week I called him and told him that this relationship is not going to work because we are too different. He was really persistent and told me that he is in love with me already and I continued seeing him. We spent last weekend together and had a really nice time. He was extremely sweet and affectionate. However since then he has not contacted me and has been ignoring my messages. What do you think is wrong with him?
Shaun-Dro Posted August 24, 2011 Posted August 24, 2011 So I met this guy in a club two weeks ago and started dating. We went on 5-6 dates so far and have been spending every weekend together since then. He is extremely nice to me, buys me flowers, always picks me up with his car, sends me really sweet text messages every night. At first I was not really into him because I met him in a club so I did not want to trust him. He is also not very educated and not exactly my physical type but his niceness made me like him. Last week I called him and told him that this relationship is not going to work because we are too different. He was really persistent and told me that he is in love with me already and I continued seeing him. We spent last weekend together and had a really nice time. He was extremely sweet and affectionate. However since then he has not contacted me and has been ignoring my messages. What do you think is wrong with him? He realized that you aren't worth his time. Remember, you were the one who tried to reject him, and only put up with more dates because you had craved the attention he was giving out. I'm glad he moved on.
Author annabanana85 Posted August 24, 2011 Author Posted August 24, 2011 Actually that wasnt the case at all. I definitely did not lead him on. I was skeptical in the beginning because I met him in a club and I usually do not get involved with club guys. After a while I explained him everything and started feeling strongly for him when I started to trust him. Actually his phone is off. What could be wrong?
Professor X Posted August 24, 2011 Posted August 24, 2011 What do you think is wrong with him? Nothing is wrong with him; What do you expect him to do? Keep wasting time on you? Keep telling you how sweet you are after you told him that this isn't going anywhere? Of course not. He moved on and he did by via going NC.
Shaun-Dro Posted August 24, 2011 Posted August 24, 2011 Nothing is wrong with him; What do you expect him to do? Keep wasting time on you? Keep telling you how sweet you are after you told him that this isn't going anywhere? Of course not. He moved on and he did by via going NC. Exactly my point. The guy had enough of giving more than he was getting, so he got a clue finally. Good for him.
bluenightowl Posted August 24, 2011 Posted August 24, 2011 So I met this guy in a club two weeks ago and started dating. We went on 5-6 dates so far and have been spending every weekend together since then. He is extremely nice to me, buys me flowers, always picks me up with his car, sends me really sweet text messages every night. At first I was not really into him because I met him in a club so I did not want to trust him. He is also not very educated and not exactly my physical type but his niceness made me like him. Last week I called him and told him that this relationship is not going to work because we are too different. He was really persistent and told me that he is in love with me already and I continued seeing him. We spent last weekend together and had a really nice time. He was extremely sweet and affectionate. However since then he has not contacted me and has been ignoring my messages. What do you think is wrong with him? I think you changed your mind too early and he is wondering about you now and more than likely has pulled back emotionally and/or is dating other people.
Author annabanana85 Posted August 24, 2011 Author Posted August 24, 2011 Actually we spent all weekend together and I told him that I feel strongly for him and we decided to keep seeing each other. Everything was completely fine, so I thought we were over the initial misunderstanding. So I don't know why he stopped contacting me! His phone is also off! Could it be that he lost his phone or something?
Cee Posted August 24, 2011 Posted August 24, 2011 My crystal ball is at the repair shop, but I have a few theories: 1) He didn't believe that you truly changed your mind and liked him, therefore he cut his losses. 2) He could see the two of you weren't compatible after your weekend together. Therefore, he walked away. 3) He liked the thrill of the chase and lost interest when you fell for him. 4) His phone died. It happens. Since he was persistent with you, I suggest you do the same. Give him a few days and call him. Or send an e-mail or FB message. The two of you seem to be open with communication, so ask him what's up. If he doesn't respond, then you will have to take radio silence as his final word, so to speak.
BWLoca Posted August 24, 2011 Posted August 24, 2011 told me that he is in love with me already and I continued seeing him. After two weeks?! This alone would've scared me off...
sm1tten Posted August 24, 2011 Posted August 24, 2011 We spent last weekend together and had a really nice time. Is this code for, "we slept together"? And to be honest, it sounds like you liked him because he liked you, and not because you actually liked him for who he was. I'm getting this based on your changing your mind about whether there was potential based on his persistence and and the fact that he is probably ignoring you now. He either got what he wanted, realised he didn't want it/you anymore, or he's written you off for some other reasons. If it's been more than 72 hours since last contact I'd chalk this one up to a loss.
henderson14 Posted August 24, 2011 Posted August 24, 2011 He probably didn't want to be the one to get dumped so he beat you to it rather than take the rejection.
Feelsgoodman Posted August 24, 2011 Posted August 24, 2011 Actually his phone is off. What could be wrong? It means that he blocked your number. And I agree with the other poster. He must have realized that dating you was too much of a pain in the @ss. Maybe he met another girl who was nicer to him. This is what you get when you sit on the fence and send mixed signals. If you were skeptical about him, you shouldn't have started dating him in the first place. But since you decided to date him, you should have put your skepticism aside and given him a chance. No self-respecting man is going to put up with a woman who's acting hot and cold.
thatone Posted August 24, 2011 Posted August 24, 2011 Actually that wasnt the case at all. I definitely did not lead him on. I was skeptical in the beginning because I met him in a club and I usually do not get involved with club guys. After a while I explained him everything and started feeling strongly for him when I started to trust him. Actually his phone is off. What could be wrong? you both have issues, sounds like a perfect match.
daphne Posted August 24, 2011 Posted August 24, 2011 He probably didn't want to be the one to get dumped so he beat you to it rather than take the rejection. This is what it sounds like to me. I doubt he was in love with you like he said. He was desperate not to be rejected. Happens all of the time.
SnowandStars Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 He met you at a club. Perhaps he doesn't trust club girls...
thatone Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 He met you at a club. Perhaps he doesn't trust club girls... well played
zengirl Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 So I met this guy in a club two weeks ago and started dating. We went on 5-6 dates so far and have been spending every weekend together since then. He is extremely nice to me, buys me flowers, always picks me up with his car, sends me really sweet text messages every night. At first I was not really into him because I met him in a club so I did not want to trust him. He is also not very educated and not exactly my physical type but his niceness made me like him. Last week I called him and told him that this relationship is not going to work because we are too different. He was really persistent and told me that he is in love with me already and I continued seeing him. We spent last weekend together and had a really nice time. He was extremely sweet and affectionate. However since then he has not contacted me and has been ignoring my messages. What do you think is wrong with him? As to why, I can't say. Cee had a good list. But the bolded is where you lost me: You basically rejected him because you didn't see a future. . . nothing is going to go well after that.
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