rocketboy9 Posted August 24, 2011 Posted August 24, 2011 I am friendly with this woman and a while back and I asked her out and she told me that she had gone back to her boyfriend. They were going to try to make it work, he is going to change, blah, blah... So I just kept it congenial and friendly. Not a big deal. About a month ago she became hyper friendly towards me. So I asked her out again. She told me its complicated. She is still seeing the guy but than went into this long drawn out session for an hour telling he doesn't talk to her, doesn't communicate to her, etc... We laughed and she told me I am very persistent. I said yep and she thought it was hysterical. I have learned not to get bent when a woman says no. I don't think anything and I just keep being friendly unlike a lot of men who cut them off. Anyway about 2 weeks ago I saw her again and she told me she has been having a heck of a week. Her sibling is in the hospital for some issue, her best friend had a miscarriage and she broke up with her boyfriend. I was like hmmm but didnt pounce on it because I don't want to be the rebound guy. She talked to me for over an hour about and I was very empathetic. That being said later in the week she told me had gone to the beach with the ex-boyfriend. She said she needed to have a fun day and a break. I was all stoked to ask her out but I got cold feet right than and there. The thing is she has broken up with him 3 times in the past and has gone back to him each time and started seeing him again. This despite the fact she knows how the guy is and is not going to change anytime soon. For what reason I dont know. I am trying not to be judgmental about it. But that being said I dont want to inject myself into the middle of a situation with them. On top of this guy is in law enforcement. I hate to be judgmental but a lot of these kind of guys have issues and I have first hand experience with them making other people's lives miserable because you got involved with someone they like. No thanks. So at this point I have been just keeping it friendly but my interest has died down dramatically. I am wondering if I am over reacting...
Spices Posted August 24, 2011 Posted August 24, 2011 It sounds like she's not emotionally available at the moment. Even if she did go for you it would be on the rebound because she's still obviously emotionally attached to this guy. I'd leave it alone for the time being.
dasein Posted August 24, 2011 Posted August 24, 2011 Two giant red flags, one for her yoyoing in her relationships, two for her dating cops. Avoid like the plague.
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