jackmerridew Posted August 24, 2011 Posted August 24, 2011 (edited) This is a continuation of my other thread, "Mixed signals: Thought we were exclusive." The girl I'm seeing, we've been dating for almost two months now. We like each other very much, and I've asked if she wanted to be exclusive, and she said she needed more time. Some important points, she's Vietnamese, and moved to the U.S. six years ago. I am the first guy she's seriously dated since her divorce two and a half years ago. EDIT: Her English is also quite broken, but good enough for us to carry a conversation. We love spending time together, and we spend a lot of nights together. The other night, she asked me a strange question. "You love me?" I kinda hemmed and hawed. We're not even exclusive. It would leave me at a very vulnerable position if I said yes. I don't know if it's a Vietnamese thing, whether she's asking me to declare my love before she decides to be exclusive with me. She's not very familiar with American dating customs, I found out. For example, she didn't know that a guy asking her out for coffee usually means he's asking her out on a date. The way I see it, it's a bit unfair to ask me that question when she will tell me she doesn't want to call herself my girlfriend yet. I might even say yes, but I'd be scared to, because I don't want to scare her off. And I wasn't about to reciprocate the question back to her. Thoughts? Edited August 24, 2011 by jackmerridew
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